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Success Habits 101 For Internet Marketers

Published February 17, 2019 in Guides - 0 Comments
Successful people are simply those with successful habits. - Brian Tracy

This is a long and thorough guide on success habits from A to Z, catered specifically to internet marketers interested in affiliate marketing, network marketing, and even enterprise-level digital marketing.

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Chapter 1: Introduction

success habits

Everyone​ ​wants​ ​to​ ​be​ ​more​ ​successful​ ​in​ ​their​ ​life,​ ​but​ ​actually​ ​knowing how​ ​to​ ​take​ ​the​ ​steps​ ​needed​ ​to​ ​achieve​ ​that​ ​success​ ​can​ ​be​ ​mystifying.

Even​ ​when​ ​you​ ​understand​ ​what​ ​is​ ​required,​ ​it​ ​can​ ​be​ ​extremely challenging​ ​to​ ​take​ ​action​ ​unless​ ​you​ ​know​ ​where​ ​you​ ​are​ ​going.

Most​ ​people​ ​stumble​ ​blindly​ ​along,​ ​not​ ​understanding​ ​why​ ​they​ ​continue​ ​to fail​ ​at​ ​their​ ​efforts.​ ​But​ ​this​ ​book​ ​is​ ​going​ ​to​ ​change​ ​all​ ​of​ ​that​ ​for​ ​you.

In​ ​fact,​ ​this​ ​guide​ ​is​ ​going​ ​to​ ​give​ ​you​ ​the​ ​tools​ ​that​ ​you​ ​need​ ​to​ ​finally achieve​ ​the​ ​success​ ​you​ ​have​ ​always​ ​wanted​ ​–​ ​and​ ​that​ ​you​ ​deserve.

The​ ​Facts​ ​about​ ​Success

If​ ​you​ ​don’t​ ​think​ ​that​ ​you​ ​are​ ​where​ ​you​ ​are​ ​meant​ ​to​ ​be,​ ​you​ ​are​ ​in​ ​good company.​

​In​ ​fact,​ ​​according​ ​to​ ​a​ ​Harris​ ​Poll​,​ ​two-thirds​ ​of​ ​Americans​ ​are unhappy​ ​with​ ​their​ ​life.​ ​Most​ ​people​ ​have​ ​not​ ​achieved​ ​their​ ​goals​ ​and​ ​are not​ ​on​ ​track​ ​the​ ​way​ ​that​ ​they​ ​would​ ​like​ ​to​ ​be.

That’s​ ​why​ ​the​ ​self-help​ ​industry​ ​is​ ​bringing​ ​in​ ​more​ ​than​ ​$10​ ​billion​ ​a​ ​year.

People​ ​pay​ ​exorbitant​ ​amounts​ ​of​ ​money​ ​for​ ​personal​ ​coaching,​ ​self-help books,​ ​seminars,​ ​audio​ ​presentations,​ ​and​ ​DVDs​ ​to​ ​help​ ​them​ ​achieve​ ​their goals,​ ​and​ ​most​ ​of​ ​the​ ​time,​ ​they​ ​fail​ ​at​ ​whatever​ ​they​ ​are​ ​trying​ ​to​ ​achieve, which​ ​puts​ ​them​ ​right​ ​back​ ​in​ ​the​ ​market​ ​for​ ​self-help.

The​ ​Solution​ ​is​ ​Surprisingly​ ​Simple

You​ ​don’t​ ​have​ ​to​ ​be​ ​one​ ​of​ ​those​ ​people​ ​who​ ​continues​ ​to​ ​fail​ ​at​ ​setting and​ ​reaching​ ​your​ ​goals.​

​While​ ​the​ ​self-help​ ​industry​ ​is​ ​set​ ​up​ ​for​ ​failure (because​ ​the​ ​majority​ ​of​ ​money​ ​is​ ​made​ ​from​ ​recidivism),​ ​the​ ​actual process​ ​of​ ​achieving​ ​goals​ ​is​ ​surprisingly​ ​simple.

In​ ​this​ ​guide,​ ​you​ ​will​ ​learn​ ​that​ ​process.​ ​

You​ ​will​ ​be​ ​able​ ​to​ ​achieve​ ​the results​ ​you​ ​have​ ​been​ ​wanting​ ​by​ ​learning​ ​how​ ​to​ ​get​ ​rid​ ​of​ ​negative​ ​habits that​ ​are​ ​preventing​ ​you​ ​from​ ​being​ ​successful​ ​and​ ​then​ ​replacing​ ​them​ ​with good​ ​habits​ ​that​ ​are​ ​going​ ​to​ ​be​ ​moving​ ​you​ ​towards​ ​the​ ​success​ ​you​ ​want every​ ​single​ ​day.


Chapter 1.1: 9​ ​Benefits​ ​Offered​ ​by​ ​This​ ​Guide

how to create success habits

There​ ​are​ ​probably​ ​hundreds​ ​of​ ​benefits​ ​that​ ​you​ ​could​ ​get​ ​from​ ​these chapters,​ ​but​ ​there​ ​a​ ​few​ ​that​ ​this​ guide​ ​has​ ​been​ ​specifically​ ​written​ ​to provide​ ​you.​ ​

Here​ ​are​ ​nine​ ​benefits​ ​that​ ​you​ ​will​ ​get​ ​from​ ​this​ ​guide.

1. Being ​​Able ​​to ​​Define​​ Success​​​

You​​ will​​ be​​ able ​​to​​ define ​​success. Most​ ​people​ ​cannot,​ ​and​ ​often,​ ​they​ ​have​ ​more​ ​trouble​ ​achieving their​ ​goals​ ​because​ ​they​ ​don’t​ ​know​ ​exactly​ ​what​ ​success​ ​is​ ​for​ ​them.

You​ ​will​ ​not​ ​only​ ​know​ ​what​ ​success​ ​means​ ​to​ ​you;​ ​you​ ​will​ ​also know​ ​what​ ​successful​ ​habits​ ​are,​ ​so​ ​that​ ​you​ ​can​ ​create​ ​them​ ​easily.

2. Replacing​​ Bad ​​Habits ​​with​​ Good ​​Ones

Instead​​ of​​ learning​​ how​​ to get​ ​rid​ ​of​ ​bad​ ​habits,​ ​this​ ​book​ ​will​ ​teach​ ​you​ ​how​ ​to​ ​replace​ ​them with​ ​good​ ​ones.​ ​

There​ ​is​ ​a​ ​very​ ​specific​ ​reason​ ​for​ ​this,​ ​and​ ​it​ ​has​ ​to do​ ​with​ ​the​ ​psychology​ ​behind​ ​habitual​ ​behaviors.​ ​This​ ​will​ ​be explored​ ​in​ ​much​ ​more​ ​detail​ ​in​ ​Chapter​ ​Five.

3. Forming ​​Permanent ​​Habits ​​That ​​Will ​​Stick

​You​​ will ​​also ​​find techniques​ ​for​ ​making​ ​habits​ ​permanent.​ ​Eventually,​ ​you​ ​want​ ​to reach​ ​a​ ​point​ ​where​ ​your​ ​good​ ​habits​ ​happen​ ​automatically,​ ​without you​ ​having​ ​consciously​ ​to​ ​think​ ​about​ ​doing​ ​them.​

​​​These​ ​permanent habits​ ​are​ ​what​ ​will​ ​carry​ ​you​ ​along​ ​the​ ​road​ ​to​ ​success.​ ​The​ ​faster and​ ​more​ ​strongly​ ​you​ ​can​ ​make​ ​them​ ​stick,​ ​the​ ​faster​ ​you​ ​will achieve​ ​a​ ​higher​ ​level​ ​of​ ​success.

4. Getting ​​the ​​Confidence​​ to​​ be​​ Successful

People ​​often ​​lack​​ the confidence​ ​that​ ​they​ ​need​ ​to​ ​be​ ​successful​ ​and​ ​a​ ​lack​ ​of​ ​belief​ ​in oneself​ ​is​ ​one​ ​of​ ​the​ ​main​ ​reasons​ ​that​ ​people​ ​fail.​ ​

This​ ​book​ ​will demonstrate​ ​techniques​ ​and​ ​tips​ ​on​ ​gaining​ ​that​ ​confidence​ ​so​ ​that you​ ​have​ ​a​ ​foundation​ ​for​ ​success.

5. Identifying​​ What​​ Triggers ​​Bad​​ Habits

When ​​you ​​do​​ an​​ action habitually​ ​that​ ​has​ ​negative​ ​consequences,​ ​it​ ​is​ ​usually​ ​because something​ ​triggered​ ​it.​ ​

Both​ ​types​ ​of​ ​habits​ ​–​ ​positive​ ​and​ ​negative​ ​– have​ ​triggers​ ​and​ ​learning​ ​what​ ​triggers​ ​your​ ​bad​ ​habits​ ​can​ ​mean putting​ ​a​ ​stop​ ​to​ ​them.

6. Creating​​ Triggers​​ for ​​Good​​ Habits

Triggers ​​do​​ not ​​just ​​prompt negative​ ​habits.​ ​You​ ​can​ ​create​ ​triggers​ ​for​ ​good​ ​habits​ ​as​ ​well.​ ​

In this​ guide,​ ​not​ ​only​ ​will​ ​identifying​ ​negative​ ​triggers​ ​that​ ​prompt destructive​ ​habits​ ​be​ ​covered,​ ​but​ ​also​ ​identifying,​ ​creating,​ ​and maintaining​ ​good​ ​triggers​ ​so​ ​that​ ​positive​ ​habits​ ​can​ ​be​ ​developed​ ​in their​ ​place.​ ​

These​ ​good​ ​triggers​ ​can​ ​then​ ​replace​ ​the​ ​negative​ ​ones so​ ​that​ ​an​ ​entire​ ​overhaul​ ​of​ ​your​ ​habits​ ​takes​ ​place,​ ​where​ ​negative habits​ ​begin​ ​to​ ​get​ ​quickly​ ​replaced​ ​by​ ​good​ ​ones,​ ​and​ ​you​ ​start seeing​ ​real​ ​changes​ ​in​ ​your​ ​life.

7. Motivating​​ Yourself​​ to ​​Start ​​the ​​Journey

In​​addition ​​to​​ triggers, you​ ​will​ ​also​ ​need​ ​motivation,​ ​and​ ​you​ ​will​ ​need​ ​a​ ​great​ ​deal​ ​of​ ​it​ ​the first​ ​few​ ​days​ ​that​ ​you​ ​are​ ​working​ ​on​ ​a​ ​new​ ​habit​ ​–​ ​or​ ​series​ ​of​ ​them.

You​ ​will​ ​also​ ​learn​ ​how​ ​to​ ​create​ ​habits​ ​that​ ​reinforce​ ​each​ ​other which​ ​adds​ ​to​ ​your​ ​motivation​ ​both​ ​initially​ ​and​ ​over​ ​the​ ​long-term.

8. Motivation ​​to ​​Stay​​ on​​ Track ​​for ​​30 ​​Days

30​​ days ​​is​​ the ​​key​​ to developing​ ​new​ ​habits​ ​that​ ​become​ ​deeply​ ​ingrained​ ​in​ ​your​ ​mind and​ ​body.​

​If​ ​you​ ​can​ ​consistently​ ​perform​ ​an​ ​action​ ​once​ ​a​ ​day​ ​for​ ​30 days,​ ​you​ ​will​ ​be​ ​on​ ​track​ ​to​ ​making​ ​it​ ​a​ ​permanent​ ​fixture​ ​in​ ​your​ ​life.

This​ ​book​ ​will​ ​teach​ ​you​ ​how​ ​to​ ​make​ ​it​ ​through​ ​those​ ​30​ ​days, including​ ​an​ ​entire​ ​section​ ​on​ ​the​ ​first​ ​few​ ​days​ ​of​ ​the​ ​journey,​ ​which are​ ​going​ ​to​ ​be​ ​the​ ​hardest.

9. Overcoming​​ Obstacles​​ that​​ Stand​​ in​​ Your ​​Way

​Finally, ​​you ​​will also​ ​get​ ​the​ ​benefit​ ​of​ ​expert​ ​advice​ ​on​ ​overcoming​ ​any​ ​obstacle​ ​that stands​ ​in​ ​your​ ​way,​ ​whether​ ​that​ ​be​ ​your​ ​family​ ​and​ ​friends​ ​being​ ​less than​ ​supportive,​ ​personal​ ​issues​ ​that​ ​make​ ​you​ ​want​ ​to​ ​put​ ​off​ ​your plan​ ​for​ ​another​ ​time,​ ​and​ ​many​ ​more,​ ​both​ ​expected​ ​and unexpected,​ ​because​ ​you​ ​will​ ​encounter​ ​both.

The​ ​bottom​ ​line​ ​here​ ​is​ ​that​ ​this​ ​guide​ ​is​ ​exactly​ ​what​ ​you​ ​need​ ​if​ ​you​ ​have struggled​ ​to​ ​create​ ​new​ ​habits.​ ​​ ​If​ ​you​ ​follow​ ​the​ ​principles​ ​here,​ ​you​ ​will have​ ​success,​ ​no​ ​matter​ ​what​ ​your​ ​specific​ ​goals​ ​actually​ ​are.


Chapter 2: What Are Successful Habits?

10 habits of all successful people

Before​ ​you​ ​can​ ​start​ ​the​ ​journey​ ​towards​ ​being​ ​successful​ ​and​ ​begin building​ ​habits​ ​that​ ​move​ ​you​ ​along​ ​that​ ​road,​ ​you​ ​need​ ​to​ ​understand​ ​what success​ ​is.​ ​

Most​ ​people​ ​only​ ​have​ ​a​ ​vague​ ​idea​ ​of​ ​success.​ ​This​ ​prevents them​ ​from​ ​actually​ ​becoming​ ​successful,​ ​because​ ​they​ ​don’t​ ​know​ ​where they​ ​are​ ​going.

It’s​ ​like​ ​getting​ ​in​ ​your​ ​car​ ​and​ ​jumping​ ​onto​ ​the​ ​interstate​ ​with​ ​a​ ​full​ ​tank​ ​of gas,​ ​trying​ ​to​ ​drive​ ​to​ ​the​ ​perfect​ ​vacation​ ​spot.​ ​

Odds​ ​are,​ ​you​ ​aren’t​ ​going to​ ​stumble​ ​onto​ ​it​ ​by​ ​accident.​ ​You​ ​need​ ​a​ ​destination​ ​in​ ​mind,​ ​and​ ​you need​ ​a​ ​map​ ​to​ ​get​ ​you​ ​there.

That’s​ ​exactly​ ​what​ ​this​ ​book​ ​is​ ​designed​ ​to​ ​be​ ​for​ ​you​ ​–​ ​both​ ​a​ ​way​ ​to identify​ ​your​ ​destination​ ​(sort​ ​of)​ ​and​ ​a​ ​road​ ​map​ ​to​ ​show​ ​you​ ​exactly​ ​how to​ ​get​ ​there.​

​But​ ​in​ ​order​ ​to​ ​start​ ​the​ ​journey,​ ​you​ ​first​ ​need​ ​to​ ​understand what​ ​success​ ​is,​ ​and​ ​specifically,​ ​what​ ​successful​ ​habits​ ​actually​ ​are.

The​ ​Definition​ ​of​ ​Success

The​ ​reason​ ​that​ ​people​ ​have​ ​problems​ ​becoming​ ​successful​ ​is​ ​that​ ​they have​ ​not​ ​figured​ ​out​ ​exactly​ ​what​ ​it​ ​means.​ ​That’s​ ​why​ ​defining​ ​success​ ​is the​ ​first​ ​step​ ​in​ ​achieving​ ​it.

The​ ​problem​ ​is,​ ​success​ ​isn’t​ ​really​ ​a​ ​destination.​ ​Success​ ​is​ ​actually​ ​a journey​ ​with​ ​stops​ ​along​ ​the​ ​way.​ ​

Those​ ​stops​ ​are​ ​definitely​ ​the destinations​ ​that​ ​you​ ​want​ ​to​ ​arrive​ ​at,​ ​but​ ​there​ ​is​ ​no​ ​“final​ ​destination”​ ​that you​ ​will​ ​get​ ​to​ ​where​ ​you​ ​will​ ​finally​ ​be​ ​happy.​ ​

When​ ​it​ ​comes​ ​to​ ​being successful​ ​and​ ​happy,​ ​the​ ​only​ ​way​ ​to​ ​achieve​ ​it​ ​is​ ​to​ ​be​ ​constantly​ ​moving towards​ ​your​ ​goals.

For​ ​example,​ ​suppose​ ​that​ ​you​ ​have​ ​the​ ​goal​ ​of​ ​financial​ ​freedom​ ​–​ ​being wealthy​ ​enough​ ​to​ ​afford​ ​some​ ​of​ ​the​ ​finer​ ​things​ ​in​ ​life.​

​You​ ​may​ ​want​ ​to eat​ ​out​ ​at​ ​better​ ​restaurants​ ​instead​ ​of​ ​places​ ​like​ ​Chili’s​ ​or​ ​Applebees​ ​(or fast​ ​food).​

​Once​ ​you​ ​have​ ​created​ ​enough​ ​wealth​ ​to​ ​be​ ​able​ ​to​ ​afford restaurants​ ​where​ ​the​ ​bill​ ​always​ ​comes​ ​to​ ​at​ ​least​ ​$100,​ ​you​ ​are​ ​still​ ​not going​ ​to​ ​be​ ​satisfied.

You​ ​are​ ​going​ ​to​ ​want​ ​more,​ ​and​ ​that’s​ ​okay.​ ​You​ ​set​ ​another​ ​goal​ ​–​ ​a higher​ ​goal​ ​–​ ​of​ ​being​ ​able​ ​to​ ​attend​ ​charity​ ​dinners​ ​where​ ​the​ ​price​ ​of​ ​a plate​ ​is​ ​over​ ​$1000.​

​Your​ ​happiness​ ​isn’t​ ​dependent​ ​upon​ ​the​ ​actual reaching​ ​of​ ​that​ ​goal​ ​–​ ​it​ ​is​ ​based​ ​upon​ ​your​ ​hard​ ​work​ ​and​ ​your​ ​sense​ ​of accomplishment​ ​from​ ​achieving​ ​that​ ​goal.

The​ ​bottom​ ​line​ ​is​ ​that​ ​your​ ​definition​ ​of​ ​success​ ​should​ ​never​ ​be​ ​a​ ​specific destination,​ ​even​ ​though​ ​you​ ​should​ ​always​ ​be​ ​working​ ​towards​ ​that​ ​end.

Instead,​ ​it​ ​should​ ​be​ ​defined​ ​as​ ​being​ ​on​ ​the​ ​path​ ​to​ ​get​ ​the​ ​things​ ​that​ ​you want,​ ​one​ ​at​ ​a​ ​time,​ ​and​ ​continuing​ ​to​ ​improve​ ​yourself​ ​and​ ​inspiring yourself​ ​to​ ​reach​ ​more​ ​and​ ​more​ ​goals.

The​ ​Definition​ ​of​ ​Successful​ ​Habits

That​ ​brings​ ​us​ ​to​ ​the​ ​framework​ ​for​ ​those​ ​goals​ ​that​ ​you​ ​want​ ​to​ ​achieve​ ​– your​ ​habits​ ​for​ ​success.​ ​The​ ​habits​ ​that​ ​you​ ​will​ ​be​ ​teaching​ ​yourself​ ​will result​ ​in​ ​the​ ​success​ ​you​ ​desire.​ ​

Habits​ ​for​ ​success​ ​are​ ​clearly​ ​defined,​ ​well thought​ ​out,​ ​and​ ​designed​ ​to​ ​take​ ​you​ ​to​ ​the​ ​goals​ ​that​ ​you​ ​have​ ​set​ ​for yourself.

In​ ​order​ ​to​ ​understand​ ​what​ ​a​ ​habit​ ​for​ ​success​ ​is​ ​completely,​ ​you​ ​are going​ ​to​ ​have​ ​to​ ​set​ ​some​ ​goals​ ​first.​ ​

But​ ​for​ ​demonstration​ ​purposes,​ ​in order​ ​to​ ​define​ ​habits​ ​for​ ​success,​ ​we​ ​will​ ​be​ ​using​ ​some​ ​example​ ​goals.​

​In fact,​ ​later​ ​in​ ​the​ ​book​ ​we​ ​will​ ​be​ ​using​ ​four​ ​different​ ​goals​ ​as​ ​examples, because​ ​it​ ​can​ ​be​ ​difficult​ ​to​ ​understand​ ​how​ ​to​ ​identify​ ​the​ ​successful​ ​habit underneath​ ​the​ ​goal​ ​if​ ​the​ ​example​ ​is​ ​too​ ​unlike​ ​whatever​ ​you​ ​are​ ​trying​ ​to achieve.

Example:​ ​The​ ​Weight​ ​Loss​ ​Goal

Let’s​ ​say​ ​our​ ​goal​ ​is​ ​weight​ ​loss.​ ​

This​ ​may​ ​or​ ​may​ ​not​ ​be​ ​one​ ​of​ ​your specific​ ​goals,​ ​but​ ​getting​ ​healthy,​ ​losing​ ​weight,​ ​and​ ​reducing​ ​the​ ​risk​ ​for heart​ ​attack,​ ​stroke,​ ​diabetes​ ​and​ ​other​ ​health​ ​problems​ ​are​ ​definitely​ ​some of​ ​the​ ​most​ ​common​ ​ones​ ​out​ ​there.

If​ ​you​ ​have​ ​a​ ​habit​ ​of​ ​eating​ ​unhealthy​ ​foods​ ​and​ ​avoiding​ ​the​ ​gym,​ ​you​ ​are not​ ​alone.​ ​When​ ​age​ ​50​ ​starts​ ​to​ ​creep​ ​up​ ​on​ ​people,​ ​their​ ​health​ ​becomes a​ ​primary​ ​concern.

So,​ ​suppose​ ​that​ ​the​ ​goal​ ​that​ ​you​ ​have​ ​set​ ​for​ ​yourself​ ​is​ ​to​ ​lose​ ​30 pounds​ ​and​ ​to​ ​eat​ ​healthier.​ ​

You​ ​don’t​ ​want​ ​to​ ​set​ ​goals​ ​or​ ​develop​ ​habits that​ ​are​ ​negatives.​ ​You​ ​want​ ​to​ ​create​ ​positive​ ​habits​ ​instead.​ ​

The​ ​reason for​ ​this​ ​is​ ​simple:​ ​when​ ​you​ ​try​ ​to​ ​change​ ​bad​ ​habits,​ ​you​ ​are​ ​taking something​ ​away​ ​from​ ​yourself​ ​–​ ​something​ ​you​ ​very​ ​likely​ ​enjoy.

Instead,​ ​form​ ​good​ ​habits​ ​that​ ​will​ ​automatically​ ​replace​ ​the​ ​bad​ ​habits. That​ ​way,​ ​you​ ​are​ ​giving​ ​yourself​ ​something​ ​good​ ​and​ ​not​ ​taking​ ​anything away​ ​–​ ​at​ ​least​ ​in​ ​your​ ​mind.​ ​

The​ ​difference​ ​is​ ​subtle,​ ​but​ ​it​ ​really​ ​will​ ​make a​ ​difference.

So,​ ​when​ ​it​ ​comes​ ​to​ ​identifying​ ​habits​ ​for​ ​success​ ​for​ ​this​ ​example,​ ​let’s start​ ​with​ ​what​ ​you​ ​don’t​ ​want​ ​to​ ​do.

Habits​ ​to​ ​Change​​ ​(Negatives)

  • Stop​​ eating​​ so​​ much​​ junk ​​food
  • Stop​​ watching​​ so ​​much​​ evening ​​TV
  • Quit​​ going​​ to ​​all-you-can-eat ​​buffets
  • Lay ​​off ​​soda

See​ ​how​ ​all​ ​of​ ​those​ ​are​ ​taking​ ​something​ ​away​ ​from​ ​your​ ​life?​ ​You​ ​are removing​ ​things​ ​that​ ​you​ ​enjoy,​ ​and​ ​that’s​ ​just​ ​depressing.​ ​

It​ ​will​ ​be​ ​very difficult​ ​to​ ​motivate​ ​yourself​ ​to​ ​change​ ​your​ ​habits​ ​because​ ​you​ ​feel​ ​as​ ​if you​ ​are​ ​giving​ ​up​ ​lots​ ​of​ ​stuff​ ​that​ ​you​ ​enjoy.​ ​

But​ ​let’s​ ​change​ ​those​ ​habits slightly​ ​and​ ​make​ ​them​ ​positive.

Habits​ ​to​ ​Add​​ ​(Positives)

  • Start​​ eating​​ a​​ piece​​ of​​ fruit​​ every​​day
  • Spend​​ 30​​ minutes ​​in​​ the ​​evening​​ taking​​ a​​ casual​​ stroll
  • Start​​ eating​​ at​​ nicer ​​restaurants​​ with ​​a​​ healthier​​ menu
  • Start​​ drinking​​ more​​ water​​ (flavored​​ if​​ desired)

Can​ ​you​ ​see​ ​how​ ​much​ ​of​ ​a​ ​difference​ ​this​ ​makes?​ ​When​ ​you​ ​are choosing​ ​new​ ​habits​ ​or​ ​trying​ ​to​ ​break​ ​old​ ​ones,​ ​you​ ​want​ ​to​ ​make​ ​sure that​ ​you​ ​are​ ​giving​ ​yourself​ ​something​ ​instead​ ​of​ ​taking​ ​it​ ​away.​ ​

Even though​ ​you​ ​know​ ​somewhere​ ​inside​ ​that​ ​it​ ​is​ ​basically​ ​the​ ​same​ ​action,​ ​you can​ ​fool​ ​your​ ​brain​ ​into​ ​being​ ​more​ ​motivated​ ​this​ ​way.​ ​We​ ​will​ ​go​ ​into more​ ​detail​ ​on​ ​this​ ​in​ ​Chapter​ ​Five.


Chapter 3: How​ ​Actions​ ​Become​ ​Habitual

bad habits are easy to form but hard to live with, whereas good habits are hard to form but easy to live with so replace bad habits with good ones by repetition

In​ ​this​ ​chapter,​ ​we​ ​will​ ​be​ ​discussing​ ​just​ ​how​ ​certain​ ​actions​ ​become habitual,​ ​which​ ​will​ ​both​ ​help​ ​you​ ​break​ ​negative​ ​or​ ​destructive​ ​habits​ ​and develop​ ​positive​ ​ones​ ​in​ ​their​ ​place.​

​But​ ​before​ ​you​ ​can​ ​take​ ​a​ ​single​ ​step towards​ ​that​ ​goal,​ ​you​ ​first​ ​have​ ​to​ ​understand​ ​how​ ​you​ ​got​ ​to​ ​where​ ​you currently​ ​are.

Everyone​ ​has​ ​habits​ ​that​ ​they​ ​have​ ​developed​ ​over​ ​the​ ​years.​ ​Some​ ​of them​ ​are​ ​really​ ​good​ ​for​ ​you​ ​and​ ​others​ ​not​ ​so​ ​much.​ ​

For​ ​example,​ ​you might​ ​have​ ​learned​ ​to​ ​brush​ ​your​ ​teeth​ ​every​ ​morning​ ​and​ ​every​ ​night before​ ​bed.​ ​

This​ ​will​ ​keep​ ​your​ ​teeth​ ​healthy,​ ​and​ ​it​ ​is​ ​a​ ​habit​ ​that​ ​will​ ​give you​ ​a​ ​better​ ​smile,​ ​save​ ​you​ ​big​ ​money​ ​at​ ​the​ ​dentist,​ ​and​ ​prevent​ ​a​ ​whole lot​ ​of​ ​pain​ ​and​ ​suffering​ ​(anyone​ ​who​ ​has​ ​ever​ ​had​ ​a​ ​dental​ ​extraction​ ​will agree​ ​wholeheartedly).

On​ ​the​ ​other​ ​hand,​ ​you​ ​might​ ​have​ ​developed​ ​the​ ​habit​ ​for​ ​procrastination. You​ ​definitely​ ​aren’t​ ​alone.​ ​

Everyone​ ​procrastinates​ ​to​ ​some​ ​degree,​ ​and some​ ​people​ ​make​ ​it​ ​a​ ​way​ ​of​ ​life.​ ​Procrastination​ ​happens​ ​for​ ​many reasons.​ ​

Sometimes​ ​it​ ​is​ ​the​ ​fear​ ​of​ ​success,​ ​the​ ​lack​ ​of​ ​confidence​ ​in achieving​ ​it,​ ​or​ ​perhaps​ ​it​ ​is​ ​just​ ​a​ ​lack​ ​of​ ​motivation.

These​ ​are​ ​just​ ​two​ ​examples​ ​of​ ​good​ ​and​ ​bad​ ​habits.​ ​You​ ​have​ ​thousands of​ ​habits​ ​(good​ ​and​ ​bad)​ ​that​ ​you​ ​have​ ​ingrained​ ​in​ ​yourself​ ​over​ ​the​ ​years.

Understanding​ ​how​ ​these​ ​habits​ ​developed​ ​will​ ​allow​ ​you​ ​to​ ​see​ ​your​ ​own successes​ ​and​ ​failures​ ​more​ ​clearly.​ ​​​

Also,​ ​being​ ​familiar​ ​with​ ​the psychology​ ​behind​ ​habits​ ​will​ ​give​ ​you​ ​an​ ​objective​ ​perspective​ ​and​ ​allow you​ ​to​ ​fix​ ​problems​ ​without​ ​as​ ​much​ ​emotional​ ​baggage.

The​ ​Psychology​ ​Behind​ ​Your​ ​Habits

It​ ​all​ ​starts​ ​with​ ​understanding​ ​the​ ​psychology​ ​behind​ ​your​ ​habits:​ ​how​ ​they form,​ ​what​ ​motivates​ ​you​ ​to​ ​perform​ ​them,​ ​and​ ​how​ ​they​ ​become​ ​a permanent​ ​part​ ​of​ ​your​ ​life.

The​ ​first​ ​thing​ ​that​ ​you​ ​need​ ​to​ ​understand​ ​is​ ​that​ ​all​ ​habits​ ​–​ ​from​ ​brushing your​ ​teeth​ ​to​ ​recognizing​ ​and​ ​taking​ ​advantage​ ​of​ ​multi-million​ ​dollar business​ ​opportunities​ ​–​ ​are​ ​formed​ ​exactly​ ​the​ ​same​ ​way.​ ​

The neurological​ ​process​ ​in​ ​forming​ ​habits​ ​is​ ​identical,​ ​and​ ​it​ ​doesn’t​ ​matter​ ​if​ ​it is​ ​a​ ​tiny​ ​habit​ ​or​ ​a​ ​major​ ​habit,​ ​a​ ​bad​ ​habit​ ​or​ ​a​ ​good​ ​one.

Understanding​ ​this​ ​is​ ​actually​ ​one​ ​of​ ​the​ ​most​ ​important​ ​things​ ​that​ ​you​ ​can do​ ​because​ ​it​ ​immediately​ ​tells​ ​you​ ​something​ ​about​ ​yourself​ ​–​ ​namely, that​ ​if​ ​you​ ​can​ ​teach​ ​yourself​ ​to​ ​brush​ ​your​ ​teeth​ ​twice​ ​or​ ​three​ ​times​ ​a​ ​day, without​ ​even​ ​thinking​ ​about​ ​it,​ ​then​ ​you​ ​can​ ​teach​ ​yourself​ ​anything.​ ​

You can​ ​have​ ​confidence​ ​in​ ​your​ ​ability​ ​to​ ​teach​ ​yourself​ ​any​ ​good​ ​habit​ ​that you​ ​want,​ ​because​ ​you​ ​have​ ​already​ ​done​ ​it​ ​many​ ​times​ ​in​ ​your​ ​life.

While​ ​brushing​ ​your​ ​teeth​ ​may​ ​seem​ ​to​ ​have​ ​very​ ​little​ ​to​ ​do​ ​with​ ​starting an​ ​online​ ​business​ ​and​ ​making​ ​it​ ​successful,​ ​the​ ​process​ ​is​ ​exactly​ ​the same.​ ​If​ ​you​ ​can​ ​do​ ​one,​ ​you​ ​can​ ​do​ ​the​ ​other.

Learning​ ​How​ ​to​ ​Brush​ ​Your​ ​Teeth​ ​Again

Imagine​ ​that​ ​you​ ​are​ ​not​ ​in​ ​the​ ​habit​ ​of​ ​brushing​ ​your​ ​teeth.​ ​You​ ​brush​ ​a couple​ ​of​ ​times​ ​a​ ​week,​ ​but​ ​you​ ​want​ ​to​ ​brush​ ​at​ ​least​ ​twice​ ​every​ ​day.​ ​

You probably​ ​aren’t​ ​trying​ ​to​ ​develop​ ​this​ ​habit​ ​in​ ​reality,​ ​but​ ​bear​ ​with​ ​me because​ ​it​ ​serves​ ​to​ ​demonstrate​ ​a​ ​very​ ​important​ ​example​ ​of​ ​​ ​how​ ​habits are​ ​formed.

Let’s​ ​start​ ​with​ ​the​ ​morning.​ ​When​ ​you​ ​get​ ​up​ ​in​ ​the​ ​morning,​ ​you​ ​know​ ​that you​ ​have​ ​bad​ ​breath.​ ​

The​ ​last​ ​thing​ ​that​ ​you​ ​want​ ​to​ ​do​ ​is​ ​leave​ ​the​ ​house with​ ​dragon​ ​breath​ ​and​ ​then​ ​go​ ​to​ ​work​ ​and​ ​talk​ ​to​ ​coworkers.

That’s​ ​why​ ​when​ ​you​ ​first​ ​wake​ ​up,​ ​you​ ​are​ ​going​ ​to​ ​spend​ ​a​ ​few​ ​minutes thinking​ ​about​ ​what​ ​it​ ​would​ ​be​ ​like​ ​to​ ​go​ ​into​ ​work​ ​with​ ​bad​ ​breath.

Imagine​ ​the​ ​look​ ​on​ ​your​ ​co-workers’​ ​faces​ ​and​ ​how​ ​people​ ​would​ ​talk about​ ​you. This​ ​should​ ​properly​ ​motivate​ ​you​ ​to​ ​get​ ​into​ ​the​ ​bathroom​ ​as​ ​soon​ ​as​ ​you wake​ ​up​ ​to​ ​brush​ ​your​ ​teeth.

If​ ​you​ ​want​ ​to​ ​motivate​ ​yourself​ ​in​ ​the​ ​evening,​ ​using​ ​the​ ​same​ ​example, then​ ​spend​ ​a​ ​few​ ​minutes​ ​lying​ ​in​ ​bed​ ​and​ ​thinking​ ​about​ ​all​ ​of​ ​the​ ​bacteria, sugar,​ ​and​ ​rotting​ ​bits​ ​of​ ​food​ ​that​ ​are​ ​still​ ​in​ ​your​ ​mouth​ ​and​ ​on​ ​your​ ​teeth.

You​ ​will​ ​want​ ​to​ ​get​ ​up​ ​and​ ​brush​ ​them​ ​before​ ​you​ ​go​ ​to​ ​sleep.

These​ ​pre-actions​ ​are​ ​called​ ​triggers,​ ​and​ ​they​ ​are​ ​the​ ​basis​ ​of​ ​the neurological​ ​process​ ​that​ ​creates​ ​habits.​ ​When​ ​you​ ​have​ ​a​ ​trigger,​ ​you motivate​ ​an​ ​action.​

​You​ ​can​ ​create​ ​these​ ​triggers​ ​yourself​ ​so​ ​that​ ​you​ ​do the​ ​action​ ​automatically,​ ​and​ ​it​ ​won’t​ ​be​ ​a​ ​chore.​ ​It​ ​will​ ​be​ ​something​ ​that you​ ​actually​ ​want​ ​to​ ​do.

Creating​ ​Long-Term​ ​Habits​ ​that​ ​Last

Creating​ ​your​ ​trigger​ ​is​ ​only​ ​the​ ​first​ ​step​ ​in​ ​the​ ​process​ ​of​ ​creating​ ​a long-term​ ​habit.​ ​You​ ​first​ ​have​ ​to​ ​train​ ​your​ ​mind​ ​to​ ​trigger​ ​the​ ​action,​ ​and then​ ​you​ ​will​ ​perform​ ​it.​ ​

When​ ​you​ ​do​ ​that​ ​enough​ ​times​ ​(which​ ​is​ ​where the​ ​30​ ​day​ ​plan​ ​outlined​ ​in​ ​a​ ​later​ ​chapter​ ​comes​ ​in),​ ​the​ ​action​ ​will​ ​become automatic,​ ​and​ ​you​ ​will​ ​no​ ​longer​ ​need​ ​the​ ​trigger​ ​in​ ​order​ ​to​ ​remember​ ​to do​ ​the​ ​action.

It​ ​is​ ​just​ ​as​ ​important​ ​to​ ​be​ ​motivated​ ​when​ ​you​ ​are​ ​triggering​ ​an​ ​action​ ​as it​ ​is​ ​to​ ​remember​ ​to​ ​do​ ​it.​ ​

Just​ ​because​ ​you​ ​created​ ​a​ ​trigger​ ​doesn’t​ ​mean that​ ​you​ ​are​ ​going​ ​to​ ​want​ ​to​ ​perform​ ​the​ ​habit.​ ​That’s​ ​why​ ​you​ ​need​ ​to create​ ​a​ ​benefits​ ​list​ ​for​ ​every​ ​habit​ ​that​ ​you​ ​are​ ​attempting​ ​to​ ​form.

Use​ ​visualization​ ​to​ ​motivate​ ​yourself​ ​to​ ​complete​ ​an​ ​action.​ ​When​ ​you​ ​can see​ ​the​ ​end​ ​result​ ​that​ ​you​ ​want​ ​in​ ​your​ ​mind,​ ​you​ ​are​ ​much​ ​more​ ​likely​ ​to do​ ​the​ ​habit​ ​with​ ​or​ ​without​ ​the​ ​trigger.

This​ ​is​ ​just​ ​a​ ​brief​ ​overview​ ​of​ ​how​ ​habits​ ​are​ ​formed.​ ​

By​ ​the​ ​end​ ​of​ ​this guide,​ ​you​ ​will​ ​have​ ​a​ ​much​ ​better​ ​grasp​ ​of​ ​the​ ​psychology​ ​behind​ ​habits and​ ​especially​ ​how​ ​you​ ​can​ ​create​ ​them​ ​with​ ​staying​ ​power​ ​over​ ​the long-term.

Creating​ ​long-term​ ​habits​ ​that​ ​will​ ​last​ ​a​ ​lifetime​ ​does​ ​take​ ​a​ ​little​ ​work,​ ​but most​ ​of​ ​it​ ​is​ ​right​ ​at​ ​the​ ​beginning​ ​and​ ​the​ ​rewards​ ​for​ ​doing​ ​it​ ​are​ ​actually pretty​ ​great.


Chapter 4: Setting​ ​Goals

set goals

In​ ​order​ ​to​ ​start​ ​your​ ​journey​ ​towards​ ​success​ ​and​ ​begin​ ​developing successful​ ​habits,​ ​you​ ​first​ ​need​ ​to​ ​have​ ​some​ ​goals.​ ​This​ ​is​ ​the​ ​destination that​ ​was​ ​discussed​ ​in​ ​Chapter​ ​2.

Learning​ ​how​ ​to​ ​set​ ​goals​ ​properly​ ​isn’t​ ​complicated,​ ​but​ ​it​ ​does​ ​need​ ​to​ ​be done​ ​the​ ​right​ ​way.​

​The​ ​most​ ​important​ ​thing​ ​to​ ​understand​ ​about​ ​goal setting​ ​is​ ​that​ ​the​ ​journey​ ​is​ ​much​ ​more​ ​important​ ​than​ ​the​ ​end​ ​result.

This​ ​was​ ​discussed​ ​a​ ​little​ ​in​ ​Chapter​ ​2.​ ​When​ ​you​ ​have​ ​goals​ ​and​ ​you​ ​are on​ ​track​ ​to​ ​reaching​ ​them,​ ​you​ ​are​ ​happy.​ ​

But​ ​your​ ​happiness​ ​isn’t​ ​going​ ​to become​ ​permanent​ ​when​ ​you​ ​finally​ ​reach​ ​those​ ​goals.​ ​

You​ ​will​ ​be​ ​more satisfied​ ​with​ ​life​ ​and​ ​happier,​ ​but​ ​you​ ​are​ ​still​ ​going​ ​to​ ​want​ ​to​ ​set​ ​new goals.​ ​You​ ​will​ ​never​ ​be​ ​satisfied,​ ​and​ ​that’s​ ​perfectly​ ​okay.

What​ ​Are​ ​Goals​ ​Then?

So,​ ​you​ ​might​ ​be​ ​wondering​ ​just​ ​what​ ​the​ ​purpose​ ​of​ ​goals​ ​actually​ ​is​ ​then. You​ ​cannot​ ​be​ ​successful​ ​without​ ​goals,​ ​and​ ​you​ ​cannot​ ​form​ ​good​ ​habits without​ ​goals.

You​ ​can​ ​try​ ​to​ ​force​ ​yourself​ ​to​ ​do​ ​something​ ​habitually,​ ​but​ ​without​ ​a​ ​goal behind​ ​them,​ ​those​ ​habits​ ​have​ ​no​ ​power​ ​and​ ​they​ ​will​ ​not​ ​stick,​ ​even​ ​if​ ​you do​ ​follow​ ​the​ ​steps​ ​required​ ​to​ ​get​ ​them​ ​to​ ​become​ ​permanent.​

​Your​ ​goal​ ​is not​ ​only​ ​your​ ​motivation;​ ​it​ ​is​ ​also​ ​your​ ​blueprint.​ ​The​ ​goal​ ​that​ ​you​ ​are working​ ​towards​ ​will​ ​put​ ​demands​ ​on​ ​the​ ​types​ ​of​ ​habits​ ​that​ ​you​ ​create, and​ ​it​ ​will​ ​shape​ ​the​ ​way​ ​that​ ​you​ ​change.


Chapter 4.1: Creating​ ​a​ ​List​ ​of​ ​Goals

create your own life goals list

One​ ​of​ ​the​ ​best​ ​ways​ ​to​ ​set​ ​goals​ ​that​ ​will​ ​show​ ​you​ ​what​ ​habits​ ​you​ ​need to​ ​form​ ​to​ ​achieve​ ​the​ ​end​ ​result​ ​is​ ​to​ ​use​ ​the​ ​YEAR-MONTH-WEEK model.​ ​

This​ ​is​ ​a​ ​style​ ​of​ ​goal​ ​setting​ ​that​ ​is​ ​similar​ ​to​ ​the LONG-TERM/SHORT-TERM​ ​model​ ​that​ ​most​ ​people​ ​are​ ​familiar​ ​with.

However,​ ​YEAR-MONTH-WEEK​ ​is​ ​a​ ​much​ ​more​ ​effective​ ​model​ ​in​ ​today’s world,​ ​where​ ​we​ ​measure​ ​success​ ​in​ ​those​ ​clearly​ ​defined​ ​periods​ ​of​ ​time.

If​ ​you​ ​are​ ​lucky​ ​enough​ ​to​ ​be​ ​reading​ ​this​ ​in​ ​January,​ ​then​ ​you​ ​have​ ​a​ ​great opportunity​ ​to​ ​create​ ​a​ ​perfect​ ​goal​ ​structure.​ ​

If​ ​not,​ ​then​ ​you​ ​have​ ​a​ ​couple of​ ​choices:​ ​either​ ​set​ ​your​ ​plans​ ​for​ ​“the​ ​rest​ ​of​ ​the​ ​year,”​ ​however​ ​many months​ ​are​ ​left,​ ​or​ ​you​ ​can​ ​set​ ​your​ ​longest​ ​goal​ ​period​ ​over​ ​the​ ​next​ ​12 months,​ ​no​ ​matter​ ​what​ ​month​ ​you​ ​start​ ​in.

Those​ ​goals​ ​for​ ​the​ ​12-month​ ​period​ ​are​ ​your​ ​long-term​ ​goals.​ ​They​ ​will​ ​be the​ ​guide​ ​that​ ​you​ ​will​ ​use​ ​to​ ​create​ ​habits.​ ​

Your​ ​12-month​ ​goals​ ​are​ ​going to​ ​be​ ​what​ ​you​ ​are​ ​attempting​ ​to​ ​accomplish​ ​with​ ​the​ ​habits​ ​that​ ​you​ ​create, and​ ​you​ ​will​ ​see​ ​how​ ​they​ ​break​ ​down​ ​into​ ​those​ ​habits​ ​shortly.

First,​ ​we​ ​need​ ​to​ ​set​ ​some​ ​goals​ ​so​ ​that​ ​you​ ​can​ ​see​ ​how​ ​the​ ​process works.​ ​Let’s​ ​start​ ​with​ ​some​ ​simple​ ​example​ ​goals​ ​for​ ​the​ ​12-month​ ​period.

  • Learn ​​a​​ new ​​language
  • Improve ​​website​​ traffic
  • Lose​​ some​​ weight
  • Read ​​more ​​books

The​ ​problem​ ​with​ ​these​ ​goals​ ​is​ ​that​ ​while​ ​they​ ​definitely​ ​tell​ ​you​ ​what​ ​you should​ ​be​ ​working​ ​on,​ ​they​ ​aren’t​ ​clearly​ ​defined​ ​enough​ ​to​ ​create​ ​habits from.​

​So,​ ​let’s​ ​make​ ​these​ ​goals​ ​something​ ​with​ ​a​ ​definite​ ​achievement point.

Goal​ ​1:​ ​Learning​ ​a​ ​New​ ​Language

Instead​ ​of​ ​learning​ ​a​ ​new​ ​language​ ​as​ ​a​ ​goal​ ​(which​ ​may​ ​actually​ ​take​ ​you longer​ ​than​ ​a​ ​year),​ ​let’s​ ​use​ ​something​ ​that​ ​you​ ​can​ ​actually​ ​measure.​

​For example,​ ​suppose​ ​you​ ​used​ ​the​ ​popular​ ​(free)​ ​language​ ​learning​ ​website Duolingo.

Duolingo​ ​allows​ ​you​ ​to​ ​earn​ ​a​ ​specific​ ​amount​ ​of​ ​XP​ ​(Experience​ ​Points) each​ ​day​ ​that​ ​you​ ​study​ ​your​ ​language.​ ​It​ ​also​ ​tracks​ ​your​ ​learning​ ​so​ ​that you​ ​can​ ​know​ ​when​ ​you​ ​are​ ​100%​ ​fluent.​

​This​ ​is​ ​perfect​ ​for​ ​a​ ​goal​ ​because you​ ​can​ ​set​ ​a​ ​goal​ ​of​ ​becoming​ ​X​ ​percent​ ​fluent​ ​rather​ ​than​ ​the​ ​rather vague​ ​(and​ ​maybe​ ​impossible)​ ​goal​ ​to​ ​learn​ ​a​ ​new​ ​language​ ​in​ ​a​ ​year.​ ​

As​ ​a side​ ​note,​ ​you​ ​should​ ​also​ ​choose​ ​your​ ​language.

Goal​ ​2:​ ​Improve​ ​Website​ ​Traffic

This​ ​goal​ ​assumes​ ​that​ ​you​ ​have​ ​some​ ​type​ ​of​ ​website​ ​(possibly​ ​one​ ​that​ ​is making​ ​money)​ ​that​ ​you​ ​want​ ​to​ ​get​ ​more​ ​traffic​ ​to.​

​This​ ​may​ ​not​ ​be​ ​your goal​ ​at​ ​all,​ ​but​ ​it​ ​is​ ​just​ ​an​ ​example​ ​to​ ​help​ ​you​ ​form​ ​your​ ​own​ ​goals.​ ​​In​ ​this case,​ ​your​ ​goal​ ​simply​ ​identifies​ ​your​ ​objective​ ​without​ ​a​ ​specific​ ​end​ ​point.

If​ ​you​ ​increase​ ​web​ ​traffic​ ​by​ ​a​ ​single​ ​visitor,​ ​you​ ​will​ ​have​ ​achieved​ ​your goal,​ ​and​ ​that’s​ ​probably​ ​not​ ​what​ ​you​ ​would​ ​have​ ​in​ ​mind​ ​with​ ​a​ ​goal​ ​like this.

Goal​ ​3:​ ​Lose​ ​Some​ ​Weight

Okay,​ ​this​ ​is​ ​a​ ​common​ ​goal,​ ​but​ ​again,​ ​it’s​ ​not​ ​specific.​ ​Lose​ ​how​ ​much weight?​ ​By​ ​when?​ ​

If​ ​you​ ​don’t​ ​have​ ​a​ ​clearly​ ​defined​ ​timeline,​ ​you​ ​aren’t going​ ​to​ ​be​ ​able​ ​to​ ​make​ ​habits​ ​that​ ​allow​ ​you​ ​to​ ​reach​ ​that​ ​goal.

Goal​ ​4:​ ​Read​ ​More​ ​Books

You​ ​are​ ​probably​ ​getting​ ​the​ ​hang​ ​of​ ​it​ ​by​ ​now.​ ​How​ ​many​ ​more​ ​books​ ​do you​ ​want​ ​to​ ​read?​ ​

If​ ​you​ ​are​ ​planning​ ​for​ ​a​ ​year,​ ​then​ ​you​ ​need​ ​to realistically​ ​choose​ ​how​ ​many​ ​you​ ​will​ ​be​ ​able​ ​to​ ​get​ ​through.​ ​You​ ​also need​ ​to​ ​identify​ ​what​ ​types​ ​of​ ​books​ ​you​ ​want​ ​to​ ​read.

Goals​ ​That​ ​Will​ ​Actually​ ​Work

Let’s​ ​rewrite​ ​those​ ​original​ ​goals​ ​that​ ​we​ ​have​ ​identified​ ​into​ ​ones​ ​that​ ​will actually​ ​help​ ​you​ ​create​ ​habits,​ ​as​ ​outlined​ ​in​ ​the​ ​next​ ​chapter.​ ​

Here​ ​are some​ ​examples​ ​of​ ​these​ ​goals​ ​with​ ​more​ ​specifics​ ​and​ ​a​ ​timeline.

  • Goal ​​1: ​​Become​​ 25% ​​fluent ​​in ​​Spanish​​ using​​ Duolingo
  • Goal ​​2:​​ Improve​​ Website ​​Traffic ​​by​​ 50%
  • Goal ​​3:​​ Lose​​ 50​​ pounds, ​​8 ​​inches​​ from ​​waist
  • Goal ​​4:​​ Read​​ 20​​ Fiction​​ Books ​​&​​ 10 ​​Nonfiction​​ Books

Creating​ ​Short-Term​ ​Goals​ ​AKA​ ​Habits

So,​ ​once​ ​you​ ​have​ ​some​ ​reasonable,​ ​specific​ ​12-month​ ​goals,​ ​you​ ​want​ ​to break​ ​them​ ​down​ ​into​ ​30​ ​days​ ​goals.​ ​Remember,​ ​your​ ​key​ ​to​ ​success​ ​is​ ​30 days​ ​of​ ​training​ ​a​ ​habit.

This​ ​is​ ​where​ ​you​ ​break​ ​down​ ​your​ ​goals​ ​into​ ​monthly​ ​ones​ ​that​ ​will​ ​help you​ ​create​ ​daily​ ​habits.​ ​Remember,​ ​the​ ​goals​ ​themselves​ ​are​ ​simply​ ​a destination.​ ​

Now,​ ​you​ ​have​ ​to​ ​create​ ​action​ ​to​ ​go​ ​along​ ​with​ ​these​ ​goals. Sometimes,​ ​you​ ​can​ ​create​ ​smaller​ ​goals​ ​that​ ​give​ ​you​ ​a​ ​much​ ​more manageable​ ​short-term​ ​achievement​ ​within​ ​a​ ​30-day​ ​period.​

​For​ ​example, if​ ​you​ ​were​ ​to​ ​use​ ​the​ ​goal​ ​to​ ​create​ ​more​ ​web​ ​traffic,​ ​for​ ​example,​ ​you might​ ​have​ ​a​ ​goal​ ​during​ ​the​ ​first​ ​30​ ​days​ ​to​ ​evaluate​ ​your​ ​current​ ​web traffic,​ ​search​ ​keywords,​ ​and​ ​the​ ​like.​ ​

You​ ​can​ ​also​ ​set​ ​goals​ ​to​ ​research methods​ ​for​ ​increasing​ ​traffic.

In​ ​some​ ​cases,​ ​however,​ ​this​ ​is​ ​counterproductive.​ ​

For​ ​example,​ ​if​ ​you​ ​set a​ ​goal​ ​to​ ​increase​ ​your​ ​Spanish​ ​fluency​ ​by​ ​20%​ ​in​ ​a​ ​12-month​ ​period,​ ​you can’t​ ​really​ ​break​ ​it​ ​down​ ​into​ ​more​ ​manageable​ ​goals​ ​unless​ ​you​ ​plan​ ​out which​ ​lessons​ ​you​ ​want​ ​to​ ​tackle​ ​each​ ​month.​

​This​ ​often​ ​backfires because​ ​some​ ​lessons​ ​are​ ​much​ ​harder​ ​than​ ​others,​ ​and​ ​people​ ​get frustrated​ ​when​ ​they​ ​cannot​ ​reach​ ​their​ ​goal.

The​ ​bottom​ ​line​ ​here​ ​is​ ​that​ ​you​ ​basically​ ​want​ ​to​ ​look​ ​at​ ​each​ ​goal individually​ ​and​ ​figure​ ​out​ ​how​ ​you​ ​are​ ​going​ ​to​ ​break​ ​it​ ​down.​ ​

The YEAR-MONTH-DAY​ ​system​ ​is​ ​great​ ​for​ ​using​ ​habits​ ​to​ ​reach​ ​goals,​ ​but just​ ​be​ ​aware​ ​that​ ​you​ ​don’t​ ​have​ ​to​ ​worry​ ​too​ ​much​ ​if​ ​all​ ​you​ ​have​ ​is​ ​a destination​ ​goal​ ​–​ ​one​ ​that​ ​is​ ​specific​ ​and​ ​measurable​ ​–​ ​and​ ​some​ ​habits that​ ​will​ ​take​ ​you​ ​there.


Chapter 5: How to Stop Bad Habits

how to break bad habits

If​ ​you​ ​are​ ​planning​ ​on​ ​changing​ ​your​ ​life​ ​and​ ​becoming​ ​more​ ​successful​ ​by stopping​ ​your​ ​bad​ ​habits,​ ​you​ ​are​ ​going​ ​about​ ​it​ ​entirely​ ​the​ ​wrong​ ​way.

There​ ​is​ ​a​ ​much​ ​better​ ​way​ ​to​ ​stop​ ​bad​ ​habits,​ ​and​ ​that’s​ ​simply​ ​by replacing​ ​them​ ​with​ ​good​ ​ones.

Let’s​ ​get​ ​straight​ ​into​ ​some​ ​examples​ ​so​ ​that​ ​you​ ​can​ ​see​ ​exactly​ ​what​ ​this means​ ​for​ ​practical​ ​purposes.​ ​Take​ ​a​ ​look​ ​at​ ​this​ ​list​ ​of​ ​some​ ​of​ ​the​ ​bad habits​ ​that​ ​you​ ​might​ ​want​ ​to​ ​change.

  • Stop ​​eating​​ so ​​much​​ fast ​​food
  • Stop ​​binge-watching​​ Netflix​​ and​​ get​​ more​​ work ​​done
  • Quit​​ procrastinating ​​so ​​much
  • Stop ​​staying​​ up​​ so ​​late
  • Quit ​​being​​ so ​​messy

Okay,​ ​so​ ​now​ ​you​ ​have​ ​identified​ ​some​ ​bad​ ​habits​ ​that​ ​you​ ​want​ ​to change.​ ​

The​ ​problem​ ​is​ ​if​ ​you​ ​start​ ​on​ ​the​ ​road​ ​to​ ​change​ ​with​ ​this​ ​list,​ ​you are​ ​going​ ​to​ ​psych​ ​yourself​ ​out​ ​before​ ​you​ ​even​ ​begin,​ ​because​ ​you​ ​are going​ ​to​ ​be​ ​taking​ ​things​ ​away​ ​from​ ​yourself.​ ​

The​ ​way​ ​that​ ​this​ ​list​ ​looks​ ​to your​ ​brain​ ​is​ ​something​ ​like​ ​this:

  • Never ​​eat​​ those ​​delicious ​​burgers, ​​fries,​​ and​​ milkshakes ​​ever​​ again
  • Stop ​​having​​ the​​ enormous​​ pleasure​​ of​​ binge-watching ​​Netflix ​​TV shows
  • Work ​​all ​​the​​ time​​ and​​ always​​ be​​ doing ​​boring ​​stuff
  • Quit ​​partying ​​and​​ never​​ stay​​ up​​ and​​ do​​ anything​​ fun
  • Be ​​a ​​boring​​ neat​​ freak ​​and​​ clean​​ up ​​all​​ the​​ time

When​ ​you​ ​are​ ​listing​ ​bad​ ​habits​ ​that​ ​you​ ​want​ ​to​ ​break,​ ​you​ ​are​ ​making your​ ​brain​ ​think​ ​that​ ​it’s​ ​losing​ ​some​ ​of​ ​the​ ​most​ ​pleasurable​ ​parts​ ​of​ ​your life.​ ​

This​ ​will​ ​make​ ​you​ ​battle​ ​yourself​ ​when​ ​you​ ​try​ ​to​ ​make​ ​these​ ​changes. Instead,​ ​you​ ​want​ ​to​ ​do​ ​something​ ​different,​ ​like​ ​set​ ​some​ ​new​ ​habits​ ​that will​ ​add​ ​benefits​ ​and​ ​value​ ​to​ ​your​ ​life.

Here​ ​are​ ​some​ ​examples​ ​of​ ​some​ ​habits​ ​that​ ​will​ ​do​ ​exactly​ ​the​ ​same​ ​thing as​ ​the​ ​ones​ ​identified​ ​above,​ ​but​ ​will​ ​trick​ ​your​ ​brain​ ​into​ ​thinking​ ​you​ ​are getting​ ​a​ ​reward​ ​instead​ ​of​ ​being​ ​punished​ ​and​ ​having​ ​something​ ​taken away.

  • Eat​​ healthy ​​for​​ at​​ least ​​one ​​meal​​ per ​​day
  • Watch​​ Netflix ​​on ​​the ​​weekends
  • Complete​​ at ​​least ​​5​​ tasks ​​each​​ week​​​ before​​​ they​​ are ​​due
  • Start​​ getting ​​more​​ sleep ​​on ​​weeknights
  • Become​​ more ​​organized ​​in ​​certain​​ areas​​ (home, ​​office)

As​ ​you​ ​can​ ​see,​ ​even​ ​though​ ​these​ ​give​ ​you​ ​the​ ​exact​ ​same​ ​result​ ​as​ ​your other​ ​habits,​ ​they​ ​are​ ​not​ ​taking​ ​anything​ ​away​ ​from​ ​your​ ​life​ ​–​ ​especially something​ ​pleasurable.​ ​

Sure,​ ​if​ ​you​ ​read​ ​between​ ​the​ ​lines,​ ​you​ ​can​ ​see that​ ​watching​ ​Netflix​ ​on​ ​the​ ​weekends​ ​means​ ​that​ ​you​ ​don’t​ ​watch​ ​it​ ​on​ ​the weekdays,​ ​but​ ​your​ ​plan​ ​isn’t​ ​to​ ​fool​ ​yourself​ ​completely;​ ​you​ ​just​ ​need​ ​to trick​ ​your​ ​brain​ ​a​ ​little​ ​to​ ​get​ ​it​ ​to​ ​quit​ ​fighting​ ​you​ ​when​ ​you​ ​try​ ​to​ ​implement a​ ​new​ ​habit.

Why​ ​Negativity​ ​Never​ ​Works

The​ ​number​ ​one​ ​factor​ ​that​ ​will​ ​determine​ ​whether​ ​or​ ​not​ ​you​ ​can​ ​achieve your​ ​goals​ ​is​ ​whether​ ​you​ ​believe​ ​in​ ​yourself.​ ​

Any​ ​sort​ ​of​ ​negativity, whether​ ​it​ ​is​ ​coming​ ​from​ ​the​ ​habits​ ​that​ ​you​ ​are​ ​changing​ ​or​ ​the​ ​thoughts going​ ​through​ ​your​ ​head,​ ​is​ ​going​ ​to​ ​mess​ ​with​ ​that​ ​confidence.

When​ ​you​ ​replace​ ​your​ ​negative​ ​habits​ ​with​ ​positive​ ​ones,​ ​you​ ​see​ ​positive change​ ​in​ ​your​ ​life.​ ​

If​ ​you​ ​are​ ​focusing​ ​on​ ​the​ ​negative​ ​habits,​ ​then​ ​all​ ​you do​ ​is​ ​get​ ​depressed​ ​and​ ​overwhelmed​ ​because​ ​you​ ​see​ ​just​ ​how​ ​many negative​ ​habits​ ​you​ ​have​ ​that​ ​you​ ​need​ ​to​ ​change.​ ​

This​ ​starts​ ​an all-or-nothing​ ​cycle​ ​that​ ​results​ ​in​ ​depression​ ​and​ ​failure.

On​ ​the​ ​other​ ​hand,​ ​if​ ​you​ ​are​ ​trying​ ​to​ ​add​ ​positive​ ​habits​ ​to​ ​your​ ​life,​ ​you don’t​ ​have​ ​the​ ​all-or-nothing​ ​ultimatum.​ ​

You​ ​feel​ ​good​ ​when​ ​you​ ​act​ ​on your​ ​good​ ​habits,​ ​even​ ​if​ ​you​ ​aren’t​ ​perfect​ ​at​ ​them,​ ​and​ ​it​ ​makes​ ​an environment​ ​much​ ​more​ ​conducive​ ​to​ ​change.

Things​ ​to​ ​Keep​ ​in​ ​Mind

There​ ​are​ ​a​ ​few​ ​things​ ​that​ ​you​ ​should​ ​keep​ ​in​ ​mind​ ​as​ ​you​ ​are​ ​working​ ​on changing​ ​your​ ​habits.​ ​

These​ ​are​ ​truths​ ​that​ ​you​ ​should​ ​remind​ ​yourself​ ​of every​ ​day​ ​until​ ​you​ ​have​ ​them​ ​memorized​ ​and​ ​can​ ​refer​ ​back​ ​to​ ​them.

  1. Everyone​ ​has​ ​bad​ ​habits​ ​that​ ​they​ ​are​ ​trying​ ​to​ ​change.​ ​Some​ ​people have​ ​a​ ​few​ ​more​ ​than​ ​others​ ​but​ ​that​ ​doesn’t​ ​make​ ​them​ ​any​ ​less valuable​ ​of​ ​a​ ​person.​ ​​ ​The​ ​individual​ ​who​ ​overcomes​ ​more​ ​to​ ​change his​ ​or​ ​her​ ​habits​ ​can​ ​end​ ​up​ ​a​ ​much​ ​stronger​ ​person​ ​than​ ​someone who​ ​got​ ​there​ ​easily.
  2. Whenever​ ​you​ ​find​ ​a​ ​bad​ ​habit​ ​that​ ​you​ ​want​ ​to​ ​change,​ ​think​ ​of​ ​a way​ ​to​ ​put​ ​a​ ​positive​ ​spin​ ​on​ ​it.​ ​Find​ ​a​ ​way​ ​to​ ​create​ ​a​ ​good​ ​habit​ ​that will​ ​squeeze​ ​out​ ​the​ ​bad​ ​habits​ ​without​ ​making​ ​you​ ​think​ ​that​ ​you​ ​are losing​ ​anything​ ​valuable​ ​from​ ​your​ ​life.
  3. The​ ​most​ ​important​ ​thing​ ​that​ ​you​ ​can​ ​do​ ​when​ ​it​ ​comes​ ​to​ ​training​ ​a new​ ​habit​ ​is​ ​to​ ​try​ ​your​ ​best​ ​every​ ​day.​ ​Don’t​ ​get​ ​discouraged because​ ​you​ ​had​ ​a​ ​bad​ ​day​ ​and​ ​didn’t​ ​do​ ​as​ ​much​ ​as​ ​you​ ​thought you​ ​should​ ​have.​ ​As​ ​long​ ​as​ ​you​ ​made​ ​an​ ​effort,​ ​it​ ​is​ ​going​ ​to​ ​count towards​ ​your​ ​30​ ​days.
  4. Remember,​ ​30​ ​days​ ​is​ ​just​ ​a​ ​guideline.​ ​Everyone​ ​is​ ​different​ ​and there​ ​is​ ​nothing​ ​wrong​ ​with​ ​you​ ​if​ ​you​ ​need​ ​a​ ​little​ ​longer​ ​to​ ​make​ ​a habit​ ​stick.​ ​In​ ​fact,​ ​some​ ​studies​ ​show​ ​that​ ​if​ ​you​ ​want​ ​to​ ​form​ ​a​ ​truly effective​ ​habit,​ ​then​ ​66​ ​days​ ​is​ ​a​ ​better​ ​guideline.​ ​However,​ ​30​ ​days is​ ​a​ ​really​ ​good​ ​start.
  5. Be​ ​flexible​ ​when​ ​it​ ​comes​ ​to​ ​training​ ​new​ ​habits.​ ​If​ ​you​ ​have​ ​made​ ​a goal​ ​that​ ​you​ ​are​ ​going​ ​to​ ​study​ ​a​ ​new​ ​language​ ​for​ ​one​ ​hour​ ​every day,​ ​but​ ​you​ ​cannot​ ​find​ ​a​ ​full​ ​hour​ ​to​ ​study​ ​every​ ​day,​ ​there​ ​is nothing​ ​wrong​ ​with​ ​cutting​ ​it​ ​down​ ​to​ ​a​ ​half​ ​hour,​ ​or​ ​even​ ​ten​ ​minutes if​ ​necessary.​ ​Try​ ​not​ ​to​ ​be​ ​too​ ​rigid.​ ​​ ​Don’t​ ​be​ ​too​ ​hard​ ​on​ ​yourself​ ​if you​ ​don’t​ ​get​ ​it​ ​right​ ​the​ ​first​ ​time.

A​ ​Recap​ ​of​ ​the​ ​Important​ ​Stuff

The​ ​thing​ ​that​ ​you​ ​want​ ​to​ ​take​ ​away​ ​from​ ​this​ ​chapter​ ​is​ ​that​ ​you​ ​always want​ ​to​ ​make​ ​your​ ​habits​ ​something​ ​positive​ ​that​ ​are​ ​adding​ ​something​ ​to your​ ​life.​ ​

There​ ​are​ ​some​ ​great​ ​examples​ ​here​ ​of​ ​ways​ ​that​ ​you​ ​can​ ​turn​ ​a negative​ ​into​ ​a​ ​positive.​ ​

These​ ​may​ ​have​ ​nothing​ ​to do​ ​with​ ​your​ ​goals,​ ​and​ ​in fact,​ ​your​ ​goals​ ​may​ ​be​ ​so​ ​different​ ​that​ ​you​ ​might​ ​not​ ​be​ ​able​ ​to​ ​see​ ​right away​ ​how​ ​you​ ​can​ ​replace​ ​the​ ​“do​ ​not”​ ​with​ ​the​ ​“do”​ ​habits.

A​ ​good​ ​way​ ​to​ ​overcome​ ​this​ ​is​ ​by​ ​writing​ ​down​ ​the​ ​“do​ ​not”​ ​and​ ​then coming​ ​up​ ​with​ ​a​ ​list​ ​of​ ​things​ ​that​ ​you​ ​might​ ​be​ ​doing​ ​in​ ​place​ ​of​ ​it​ ​if​ ​you suddenly​ ​found​ ​that​ ​you​ ​were​ ​no​ ​longer​ ​exhibiting​ ​that​ ​behavior​ ​tomorrow.

Keep​ ​plugging​ ​away​ ​at​ ​it​ ​and​ ​refine​ ​your​ ​habits​ ​as​ ​needed.


Chapter 6: Identifying Your Triggers

identifying your relapse triggers

In​ ​this​ ​chapter,​ ​we​ ​are​ ​going​ ​to​ ​discuss​ ​your​ ​triggers.​ ​Triggers​ ​are​ ​really interesting​ ​psychological​ ​elements.​ ​Triggers​ ​are​ ​things​ ​that​ ​happen​ ​in​ ​our lives​ ​that​ ​evoke​ ​an​ ​emotion,​ ​an​ ​action,​ ​a​ ​behavior,​ ​or​ ​a​ ​thought.

You​ ​have​ ​experienced​ ​triggers​ ​throughout​ ​most​ ​of​ ​your​ ​life​ ​and​ ​you​ ​may not​ ​even​ ​have​ ​realized​ ​it.​ ​

For​ ​example,​ ​when​ ​a​ ​certain​ ​song​ ​comes​ ​on​ ​the radio,​ ​it​ ​may​ ​evoke​ ​a​ ​very​ ​specific​ ​memory.​ ​When​ ​you​ ​think​ ​of​ ​a​ ​specific moment​ ​in​ ​your​ ​life,​ ​it​ ​may​ ​give​ ​you​ ​a​ ​very​ ​specific​ ​feeling​ ​about​ ​that moment.

Your​ ​good​ ​and​ ​bad​ ​habits​ ​work​ ​on​ ​these​ ​very​ ​same​ ​triggers.​ ​

For​ ​example, someone​ ​who​ ​is​ ​trying​ ​to​ ​quit​ ​smoking​ ​often​ ​has​ ​to​ ​deal​ ​with​ ​the physiological​ ​trigger​ ​of​ ​the​ ​smell​ ​of​ ​cigarette​ ​smoke.​ ​This​ ​can​ ​create​ ​an almost​ ​irresistible​ ​urge​ ​to​ ​smoke​ ​again.

The​ ​Good​ ​&​ ​Bad​ ​Triggers

So,​ ​you​ ​have​ ​two​ ​tasks​ ​when​ ​it​ ​comes​ ​to​ ​cultivating​ ​habits​ ​to​ ​help​ ​you reach​ ​your​ ​goals.​ ​

First​ ​of​ ​all,​ ​you​ ​need​ ​to​ ​realize​ ​that​ ​negative​ ​habits shouldn’t​ ​be​ ​stopped,​ ​but​ ​replaced.​ ​We​ ​discussed​ ​this​ ​at​ ​length​ ​in​ ​Chapter 4.​ ​

Second,​ ​you​ ​need​ ​to​ ​identify​ ​negative​ ​triggers​ ​and​ ​create​ ​positive​ ​ones so​ ​that​ ​you​ ​can​ ​have​ ​an​ ​action​ ​plan​ ​for​ ​avoiding​ ​negative​ ​habits​ ​and triggering​ ​positive​ ​ones.


Chapter 6.1: Creating​ ​Good​ ​Triggers​ ​&​ ​Identifying​ ​Bad​ ​Ones

know your triggers

If​ ​you​ ​want​ ​to​ ​create​ ​good​ ​habits,​ ​then​ ​you​ ​are​ ​going​ ​to​ ​have​ ​to​ ​create good​ ​triggers.​ ​Good​ ​triggers​ ​are​ ​things​ ​that​ ​you​ ​teach​ ​yourself​ ​that​ ​prompt positive​ ​actions.

For​ ​example,​ ​an​ ​instance​ ​was​ ​mentioned​ ​earlier​ ​in​ ​this​ ​book​ ​where​ ​you​ ​lay in​ ​bed​ ​thinking​ ​about​ ​the​ ​germs​ ​and​ ​disease​ ​that​ ​were​ ​incubating​ ​in​ ​your mouth​ ​to​ ​trigger​ ​yourself​ ​to​ ​go​ ​brush​ ​your​ ​teeth.​ ​

This​ ​would​ ​be​ ​considered a​ ​pre-action​ ​state,​ ​which​ ​is​ ​one​ ​of​ ​five​ ​techniques​ ​for​ ​building​ ​positive triggers​ ​detailed​ ​below.

Trigger​ ​Technique​ ​1:​ ​Scheduling

This​ ​is​ ​probably​ ​the​ ​most​ ​popular​ ​way​ ​to​ ​trigger​ ​a​ ​positive​ ​action.​ ​Just about​ ​everyone​ ​has​ ​some​ ​kind​ ​of​ ​schedule​ ​that​ ​they​ ​have​ ​to​ ​follow,​ ​and scheduling​ ​can​ ​be​ ​a​ ​great​ ​reminder​ ​that​ ​you​ ​need​ ​to​ ​take​ ​action.

Scheduling​ ​doesn’t​ ​necessarily​ ​mean​ ​that​ ​you​ ​have​ ​to​ ​choose​ ​a​ ​particular time​ ​to​ ​set​ ​an​ ​alarm​ ​in​ ​order​ ​to​ ​trigger​ ​your​ ​positive​ ​action.​ ​There​ ​are several​ ​ways​ ​that​ ​you​ ​can​ ​go​ ​about​ ​it.​ ​

You​ ​could​ ​create​ ​a​ ​to​ ​do​ ​list​ ​and refer​ ​to​ ​it​ ​throughout​ ​the​ ​day​ ​or​ ​you​ ​could​ ​plan​ ​to​ ​take​ ​your​ ​action​ ​directly after​ ​lunch,​ ​no​ ​matter​ ​what​ ​time​ ​you​ ​actually​ ​take​ ​your​ ​lunch.

When​ ​it​ ​comes​ ​to​ ​negative​ ​triggers,​ ​just​ ​be​ ​aware​ ​of​ ​patterns​ ​that​ ​you​ ​know lead​ ​to​ ​bad​ ​habits​ ​around​ ​certain​ ​times​ ​of​ ​the​ ​day.​ ​

For​ ​example,​ ​if​ ​you​ ​find yourself​ ​binge​ ​eating​ ​during​ ​evening​ ​TV​ ​watching,​ ​you​ ​can​ ​take​ ​steps​ ​to replace​ ​that​ ​ice​ ​cream​ ​or​ ​platter​ ​of​ ​chicken​ ​wings​ ​with​ ​something​ ​healthier.

Trigger​ ​Technique​ ​2:​ ​The​ ​Pre-Action​ ​State

This​ ​is​ ​the​ ​state​ ​that​ ​you​ ​are​ ​in​ ​before​ ​you​ ​actually​ ​take​ ​the​ ​action​ ​– whether​ ​good​ ​or​ ​bad.​ ​One​ ​example​ ​is​ ​going​ ​to​ ​bed​ ​and​ ​thinking​ ​about​ ​the health​ ​of​ ​your​ ​teeth​ ​because​ ​you​ ​didn’t​ ​brush.​ ​

Another​ ​example​ ​might​ ​be when​ ​you​ ​start​ ​thinking​ ​about​ ​what​ ​fast​ ​food​ ​restaurant​ ​sounds​ ​good​ ​today, you​ ​can​ ​step​ ​in​ ​and​ ​replace​ ​that​ ​fast​ ​food​ ​thought​ ​with​ ​something​ ​healthier.

However,​ ​the​ ​pre-action​ ​state​ ​doesn’t​ ​just​ ​apply​ ​to​ ​thoughts;​ ​it​ ​can​ ​also apply​ ​to​ ​emotions.​ ​It​ ​is​ ​a​ ​true​ ​fact​ ​that​ ​when​ ​you​ ​are​ ​in​ ​a​ ​certain​ ​emotional state,​ ​you​ ​are​ ​prone​ ​to​ ​triggering​ ​actions,​ ​both​ ​good​ ​and​ ​bad.​

​You​ ​can​ ​see this​ ​in​ ​many​ ​addictions,​ ​where​ ​depression,​ ​euphoria,​ ​or​ ​anger​ ​may​ ​trigger an​ ​addiction​ ​response.

Trigger​ ​Technique​ ​3:​ ​The​ ​Preceding​ ​Event

Perhaps​ ​one​ ​of​ ​your​ ​goals​ ​is​ ​to​ ​check​ ​your​ ​phone​ ​less.​ ​This​ ​is​ ​a​ ​perfect example​ ​of​ ​a​ ​trigger​ ​event​ ​that​ ​precedes​ ​your​ ​habit​ ​or​ ​action.​

​When​ ​your phone​ ​goes​ ​off,​ ​you​ ​pick​ ​it​ ​up​ ​and​ ​check​ ​the​ ​messages,​ ​even​ ​if​ ​it​ ​is​ ​nothing more​ ​important​ ​than​ ​Rhonda​ ​tweeting​ ​about​ ​how​ ​much​ ​she​ ​loves chocolate.

Preceding​ ​events​ ​can​ ​be​ ​triggers​ ​for​ ​negative​ ​actions,​ ​but​ ​they​ ​can​ ​also easily​ ​be​ ​turned​ ​around​ ​so​ ​that​ ​an​ ​event​ ​triggers​ ​an​ ​action.​ ​

One​ ​of​ ​the​ ​best ways​ ​to​ ​do​ ​this​ ​is​ ​to​ ​tie​ ​the​ ​new​ ​habit​ ​to​ ​an​ ​action​ ​that​ ​is​ ​already​ ​habitual.

For​ ​example,​ ​when​ ​you​ ​have​ ​a​ ​habit​ ​that​ ​is​ ​already​ ​deeply​ ​ingrained (drinking​ ​your​ ​morning​ ​coffee,​ ​brushing​ ​your​ ​teeth)​ ​you​ ​can​ ​tie​ ​a​ ​new​ ​habit to​ ​the​ ​old​ ​and​ ​make​ ​something​ ​that​ ​you​ ​already​ ​do​ ​every​ ​day​ ​your​ ​trigger action.

Trigger​ ​Technique​ ​4:​ ​Your​ ​Current​ ​Location

Sometimes,​ ​you​ ​can​ ​use​ ​a​ ​specific​ ​location​ ​to​ ​trigger​ ​an​ ​action​ ​that​ ​you​ ​are trying​ ​to​ ​make​ ​habitual.​

​Your​ ​environment​ ​can​ ​be​ ​a​ ​powerful​ ​ally​ ​(or enemy)​ ​when​ ​it​ ​comes​ ​to​ ​creating​ ​habits,​ ​because​ ​we​ ​are​ ​so​ ​used​ ​to​ ​our environments​ ​controlling​ ​what​ ​we​ ​do.

For​ ​example,​ ​when​ ​we’re​ ​in​ ​the​ ​family​ ​room,​ ​we​ ​watch​ ​television.​ ​When we’re​ ​in​ ​the​ ​dining​ ​room,​ ​we​ ​eat.​ ​When​ ​you’re​ ​at​ ​the​ ​office​ ​–​ ​you​ ​work.​ ​The list​ ​goes​ ​on​ ​and​ ​on.​ ​

You​ ​can​ ​make​ ​specific​ ​locations​ ​work​ ​for​ ​you​ ​when​ ​it comes​ ​to​ ​building​ ​habits,​ ​but​ ​you​ ​need​ ​to​ ​keep​ ​a​ ​couple​ ​of​ ​things​ ​in​ ​mind. First​ ​of​ ​all,​ ​you​ ​can’t​ ​make​ ​the​ ​location​ ​too​ ​general.​ ​

For​ ​example,​ ​if​ ​you choose​ ​your​ ​office​ ​building​ ​as​ ​a​ ​trigger​ ​location,​ ​you​ ​are​ ​never​ ​going​ ​to trigger​ ​the​ ​action​ ​because​ ​you​ ​spend​ ​eight​ ​hours​ ​there.​ ​

Either​ ​that,​ ​or​ ​you can​ ​trigger​ ​the​ ​action​ ​over​ ​and​ ​over,​ ​and​ ​that​ ​can​ ​get​ ​frustrating​ ​and counterproductive​ ​as​ ​well.

The​ ​other​ ​thing​ ​to​ ​keep​ ​in​ ​mind​ ​is​ ​that​ ​you​ ​want​ ​to​ ​keep​ ​your​ ​actions​ ​simple and​ ​reasonable.​

​If​ ​your​ ​trigger​ ​location​ ​is​ ​an​ ​intersection​ ​that​ ​you​ ​pass​ ​by on​ ​your​ ​way​ ​to​ ​work,​ ​don’t​ ​try​ ​to​ ​do​ ​an​ ​entire​ ​Spanish​ ​lesson​ ​triggered​ ​by that​ ​location.​

​Instead,​ ​choose​ ​something​ ​like​ ​quick​ ​self-affirmations​ ​that you​ ​can​ ​recite​ ​over​ ​the​ ​next​ ​few​ ​blocks.

Trigger​ ​Number​ ​5:​ ​Your​ ​Friends​ ​and​ ​Family

Your​ ​friends​ ​and​ ​family​ ​probably​ ​have​ ​more​ ​of​ ​an​ ​impact​ ​on​ ​your​ ​life​ ​than you’d​ ​like​ ​to​ ​admit.​ ​Do​ ​you​ ​do​ ​things​ ​differently​ ​when​ ​your​ ​parents​ ​are​ ​in town?​ ​

If​ ​you​ ​go​ ​to​ ​the​ ​bar​ ​with​ ​your​ ​buddies,​ ​do​ ​you​ ​order​ ​a​ ​beer,​ ​even​ ​if you​ ​would​ ​rather​ ​have​ ​a​ ​soda​ ​pop?

Rather​ ​than​ ​allowing​ ​your​ ​friends​ ​to​ ​affect​ ​your​ ​habits​ ​unconsciously,​ ​use them​ ​to​ ​trigger​ ​positive​ ​ones.​ ​

If​ ​you​ ​go​ ​to​ ​the​ ​bar​ ​with​ ​friends​ ​and​ ​you​ ​are trying​ ​to​ ​cut​ ​down​ ​on​ ​alcohol,​ ​then​ ​actively​ ​choose​ ​something​ ​else.​ ​Use that​ ​person​ ​or​ ​group​ ​as​ ​a​ ​trigger​ ​for​ ​a​ ​positive​ ​action.


Chapter 7: 30 Days to a New Mindset

new mindset new results

One​ ​of​ ​the​ ​major​ ​tenets​ ​of​ ​this​ ​guide​ ​is​ ​that​ ​you​ ​can​ ​develop​ ​a​ ​habit​ ​that​ ​will completely​ ​change​ ​your​ ​life​ ​in​ ​about​ ​30​ ​days.​ ​This​ ​isn’t​ ​just​ ​a​ ​nice​ ​idea,​ ​but it​ ​is​ ​actually​ ​something​ ​that​ ​you​ ​will​ ​find​ ​to​ ​be​ ​true.​ ​

That​ ​is,​ ​as​ ​long​ ​as​ ​you do​ ​it​ ​correctly.​ ​This​ ​chapter​ ​will​ ​be​ ​an​ ​overview​ ​of​ ​how​ ​the​ ​30​ ​days​ ​to building​ ​a​ ​new​ ​habit​ ​will​ ​progress​ ​and​ ​give​ ​you​ ​a​ ​picture​ ​of​ ​what​ ​it​ ​actually takes​ ​to​ ​build​ ​a​ ​habit.

What​ ​is​ ​a​ ​New​ ​Mindset?

You​ ​are​ ​constantly​ ​creating​ ​a​ ​new​ ​mindset​ ​without​ ​even​ ​realizing​ ​it. Sometimes​ ​it​ ​hits​ ​you​ ​like​ ​a​ ​ton​ ​of​ ​bricks​ ​and​ ​other​ ​times​ ​it​ ​is​ ​more​ ​subtle.

Think​ ​of​ ​a​ ​time​ ​in​ ​your​ ​life​ ​when​ ​you​ ​realized​ ​that​ ​something​ ​you​ ​had​ ​taken for​ ​granted​ ​for​ ​a​ ​long​ ​period​ ​of​ ​time​ ​was​ ​untrue​ ​(or​ ​true​ ​in​ ​some​ ​cases).

It​ ​may​ ​have​ ​been​ ​something​ ​that​ ​you​ ​assumed​ ​about​ ​a​ ​friend​ ​or​ ​coworker, or​ ​it​ ​might​ ​have​ ​been​ ​something​ ​about​ ​yourself​ ​that​ ​you​ ​only​ ​just​ ​realized.

Whatever​ ​it​ ​was,​ ​it​ ​changed​ ​your​ ​mindset.​ ​You​ ​had​ ​a​ ​psychological​ ​shift​ ​as a​ ​result​ ​of​ ​that​ ​revelation.

It​ ​works​ ​the​ ​same​ ​way​ ​when​ ​you​ ​create​ ​a​ ​new​ ​habit;​ ​when​ ​the​ ​habit​ ​has become​ ​ingrained​ ​so​ ​that​ ​it​ ​is​ ​almost​ ​automatic,​ ​your​ ​mind​ ​changes​ ​and the​ ​way​ ​that​ ​you​ ​feel​ ​about​ ​the​ ​habit​ ​changes.

Just​ ​as​ ​an​ ​example,​ ​suppose​ ​that​ ​your​ ​habit​ ​was​ ​working​ ​out​ ​at​ ​the​ ​gym every​ ​day​ ​for​ ​a​ ​month.​ ​

At​ ​the​ ​end​ ​of​ ​that​ ​30-day​ ​period,​ ​many​ ​people​ ​find themselves​ ​actually​ ​looking​ ​forward​ ​to​ ​going​ ​to​ ​the​ ​gym​ ​and​ ​working​ ​out, and​ ​even​ ​missing​ ​it​ ​when​ ​they​ ​cannot​ ​find​ ​time​ ​to​ ​go.​ ​

​That’s​ ​because​ ​their mindset​ ​has​ ​changed​ ​about​ ​the​ ​activity​ ​of​ ​working​ ​out.​ ​

Now,​ ​it​ ​is​ ​something that​ ​they​ ​enjoy​ ​and​ ​get​ ​pleasure​ ​from​ ​whereas​ ​before,​ ​when​ ​they​ ​first started​ ​forcing​ ​themselves​ ​to​ ​go,​ ​it​ ​was​ ​pure​ ​drudgery​ ​that​ ​took​ ​all​ ​of​ ​their strength​ ​to​ ​do.

That’s​ ​the​ ​power​ ​of​ ​changing​ ​your​ ​mindset,​ ​and​ ​it​ ​is​ ​something​ ​that​ ​you​ ​will experience​ ​with​ ​every​ ​new​ ​habit​ ​that​ ​you​ ​form​ ​and​ ​every​ ​bad​ ​habit​ ​that​ ​you replace​ ​with​ ​something​ ​positive.

Why​ ​Does​ ​It​ ​Take​ ​30​ ​Days?

This​ ​is​ ​a​ ​really​ ​good​ ​question,​ ​and​ ​one​ ​that​ ​science​ ​has​ ​been​ ​asking​ ​and answering​ ​for​ ​decades.​

​To​ ​understand​ ​the​ ​reason​ ​behind​ ​the​ ​30​ ​days​ ​rule, you​ ​have​ ​to​ ​understand​ ​a​ ​bit​ ​more​ ​about​ ​the​ ​science​ ​behind​ ​that​ ​rule​ ​and the​ ​reasoning​ ​behind​ ​this​ ​book.

First​ ​of​ ​all,​ ​it​ ​doesn’t​ ​take​ ​30​ ​days​ ​to​ ​form​ ​a​ ​new​ ​habit.​ ​At​ ​least,​ ​it​ ​doesn’t take​ ​30​ ​days​ ​for​ ​everyone.​ ​

The​ ​30​ ​days​ ​is​ ​used​ ​as​ ​a​ ​guideline​ ​because that​ ​is​ ​a​ ​good,​ ​solid​ ​time​ ​period​ ​to​ ​develop​ ​a​ ​new​ ​habit​ ​(as​ ​long​ ​as​ ​it​ ​is practiced​ ​daily),​ ​based​ ​upon​ ​the​ ​currently​ ​available​ ​research.

The​ ​original​ ​guideline,​ ​which​ ​was​ ​in​ ​place​ ​from​ ​the​ ​1950’s​ ​until​ ​almost 2010,​ ​is​ ​that​ ​it​ ​took​ ​21​ ​days​ ​of​ ​doing​ ​something​ ​every​ ​day​ ​to​ ​form​ ​a​ ​new habit.​ ​

This​ ​number​ ​came​ ​from​ ​a​ ​surgeon​ ​who​ ​studied​ ​plastic​ ​surgery patients​ ​and​ ​amputees.​ ​

Based​ ​upon​ ​his​ ​(relatively​ ​unsound)​ ​research,​ ​that was​ ​how​ ​long​ ​it​ ​took​ ​people​ ​to​ ​get​ ​used​ ​to​ ​their​ ​new​ ​plastic​ ​surgery​ ​look​ ​or to​ ​get​ ​used​ ​to​ ​losing​ ​a​ ​limb.

But​ ​the​ ​truth​ ​is,​ ​studies​ ​have​ ​shown​ ​that​ ​it​ ​can​ ​take​ ​anywhere​ ​from​ ​about 18​ ​days​ ​all​ ​the​ ​way​ ​up​ ​to​ ​66​ ​days​ ​to​ ​form​ ​a​ ​new​ ​habit.​ ​

This​ ​will​ ​depend upon​ ​what​ ​the​ ​habit​ ​is​ ​that​ ​you​ ​are​ ​trying​ ​to​ ​master​ ​and​ ​your​ ​own​ ​ability​ ​to train​ ​yourself​ ​to​ ​learn​ ​it.

Keeping​ ​It​ ​Simple

One​ ​of​ ​the​ ​most​ ​important​ ​things​ ​that​ ​you​ ​can​ ​do​ ​when​ ​you​ ​are​ ​building habits​ ​during​ ​the​ ​first​ ​30-day​ ​period​ ​is​ ​to​ ​keep​ ​it​ ​relatively​ ​simple.​ ​

That means​ ​building​ ​just​ ​one​ ​or​ ​two​ ​–​ ​or​ ​at​ ​the​ ​most​ ​three​ ​–​ ​habits​ ​at​ ​a​ ​time. This​ ​will​ ​allow​ ​you​ ​to​ ​concentrate​ ​on​ ​those​ ​habits​ ​and​ ​to​ ​make​ ​sure​ ​that you​ ​are​ ​taking​ ​action​ ​every​ ​day.

As​ ​you​ ​become​ ​more​ ​experienced,​ ​you​ ​can​ ​add​ ​more​ ​and​ ​more​ ​habits​ ​that you​ ​are​ ​trying​ ​to​ ​learn,​ ​tying​ ​them​ ​to​ ​trigger​ ​actions​ ​that​ ​you​ ​already​ ​do.​ ​

For example,​ ​if​ ​you​ ​brush​ ​your​ ​teeth​ ​every​ ​night​ ​without​ ​fail,​ ​then​ ​you​ ​can safely​ ​tie​ ​a​ ​new​ ​habit​ ​to​ ​this​ ​trigger​ ​action​ ​without​ ​putting​ ​too​ ​much pressure​ ​on​ ​yourself.​ ​

But​ ​the​ ​first​ ​time​ ​you​ ​take​ ​these​ ​techniques​ ​for​ ​a​ ​test drive,​ ​you​ ​should​ ​stick​ ​with​ ​three​ ​habits​ ​or​ ​fewer.

Complementary​ ​Habits

There​ ​is​ ​an​ ​exception​ ​to​ ​this​ ​rule​ ​in​ ​the​ ​form​ ​of​ ​complementary​ ​habits. These​ ​are​ ​habits​ ​that​ ​reinforce​ ​each​ ​other.​ ​

When​ ​you​ ​have​ ​several​ ​actions that​ ​are​ ​related,​ ​you​ ​can​ ​use​ ​them​ ​to​ ​trigger​ ​one​ ​another,​ ​and​ ​you​ ​can​ ​add several​ ​more​ ​habits​ ​to​ ​your​ ​day.

This​ ​works​ ​best​ ​when​ ​all​ ​of​ ​the​ ​habits​ ​are​ ​necessary​ ​for​ ​you​ ​to​ ​reach​ ​your goal.​ ​For​ ​example,​ ​suppose​ ​that​ ​your​ ​goal​ ​is​ ​for​ ​you​ ​to​ ​get​ ​in​ ​shape​ ​to​ ​run a​ ​marathon​ ​in​ ​12​ ​months.​ ​

Even​ ​if​ ​you​ ​are​ ​overweight​ ​and​ ​need​ ​to​ ​cut​ ​down on​ ​calories,​ ​dieting​ ​alone​ ​is​ ​not​ ​going​ ​to​ ​get​ ​you​ ​in​ ​shape​ ​for​ ​a​ ​marathon. Instead,​ ​you​ ​can​ ​use​ ​dieting,​ ​exercise,​ ​and​ ​even​ ​stretching​ ​to​ ​reinforce each​ ​other.

You​ ​do​ ​want​ ​to​ ​be​ ​careful​ ​of​ ​trying​ ​to​ ​do​ ​too​ ​much,​ ​even​ ​with complementary​ ​habits.​ ​

If​ ​you​ ​try​ ​to​ ​do​ ​too​ ​many​ ​things​ ​in​ ​a​ ​day,​ ​you​ ​are going​ ​to​ ​get​ ​overwhelmed​ ​quickly​ ​and​ ​you​ ​may​ ​not​ ​be​ ​able​ ​to​ ​complete everything​ ​in​ ​one​ ​day,​ ​which​ ​results​ ​in​ ​frustration​ ​and​ ​depression.

The​ ​Recap

Just​ ​remember,​ ​30​ ​days​ ​is​ ​more​ ​of​ ​a​ ​guide​ ​than​ ​an​ ​actual​ ​number​ ​that​ ​will mark​ ​when​ ​you​ ​have​ ​learned​ ​a​ ​new​ ​habit.​ ​

You​ ​aren’t​ ​going​ ​to​ ​go​ ​from​ ​no habit​ ​on​ ​day​ ​zero​ ​to​ ​magically​ ​performing​ ​a​ ​habit​ ​perfectly​ ​on​ ​day​ ​30.​ ​Be flexible​ ​and​ ​reinforce​ ​when​ ​you​ ​need​ ​to.

Keep​ ​your​ ​habits​ ​simple​ ​and​ ​try​ ​to​ ​stack​ ​complementary​ ​habits​ ​on​ ​top​ ​of each​ ​other​ ​so​ ​that​ ​they​ ​reinforce​ ​each​ ​other.​

​Be​ ​sure,​ ​though,​ ​to​ ​keep​ ​the number​ ​of​ ​habits​ ​you​ ​are​ ​trying​ ​to​ ​learn​ ​in​ ​a​ ​30-day​ ​period​ ​down​ ​to​ ​a​ ​small handful.​ ​​

Why?​ ​​You​ ​want​ ​to​ ​train​ ​yourself​ ​for​ ​success,​ ​so​ ​that​ ​next​ ​time you​ ​do​ ​a​ ​30-day​ ​session​ ​you​ ​will​ ​already​ ​have​ ​the​ ​confidence​ ​to​ ​make habits​ ​stick.


Chapter 8: Your First Five Days

five days

In​ ​the​ ​previous​ ​chapter,​ ​we​ ​discussed​ ​how​ ​you​ ​can​ ​build​ ​a​ ​new​ ​habit​ ​in​ ​30 days​ ​and​ ​some​ ​of​ ​the​ ​things​ ​that​ ​you​ ​should​ ​expect​ ​as​ ​you​ ​begin​ ​the journey.​ ​

Any​ ​period​ ​of​ ​30​ ​days​ ​where​ ​you​ ​are​ ​developing​ ​a​ ​new​ ​habit​ ​can be​ ​divided​ ​into​ ​two​ ​parts​ ​–​ ​the​ ​first​ ​5​ ​days​ ​and​ ​the​ ​remaining​ ​25​ ​days.

That’s​ ​because​ ​the​ ​first​ ​few​ ​days​ ​are​ ​going​ ​to​ ​be​ ​just​ ​as​ ​difficult​ ​–​ ​and​ ​quite possibly​ ​more​ ​difficult​ ​–​ ​than​ ​the​ ​remaining​ ​25​ ​days​ ​all​ ​put​ ​together.

How​ ​this​ ​Guide​ ​Can​ ​Help​ ​You

If​ ​you​ ​are​ ​just​ ​starting​ ​on​ ​the​ ​journey​ ​to​ ​change​ ​your​ ​habits​ ​(and​ ​therefore your​ ​mindset)​ ​in​ ​just​ ​30​ ​days,​ ​then​ ​you​ ​are​ ​going​ ​to​ ​need​ ​a​ ​step-by-step guide​ ​that​ ​will​ ​give​ ​you​ ​advice​ ​and​ ​information​ ​for​ ​each​ ​day.​ ​

Some​ ​days are​ ​going​ ​to​ ​be​ ​grueling​ ​and​ ​some​ ​days​ ​are​ ​going​ ​to​ ​be​ ​okay,​ ​but​ ​you​ ​can assume​ ​that​ ​the​ ​first​ ​five​ ​days​ ​are​ ​going​ ​to​ ​be​ ​the​ ​hardest.

That’s​ ​why​ ​we​ ​have​ ​created​ ​a​ ​guide​ ​for​ ​each​ ​of​ ​the​ ​five​ ​days​ ​that​ ​you​ ​can use​ ​when​ ​it​ ​comes​ ​time​ ​for​ ​you​ ​to​ ​start​ ​your​ ​30​ ​days​ ​to​ ​success.​ ​These daily​ ​guides​ ​are​ ​below.​ ​

It​ ​is​ ​recommended​ ​that​ ​you​ ​do​ ​not​ ​read​ ​them​ ​in advance​ ​and​ ​that​ ​you​ ​stop​ ​reading​ ​this​ ​guide​ ​at​ ​this​ ​point​ ​until​ ​you​ ​are ready​ ​to​ ​begin​ ​your​ ​30​ ​days​ ​of​ ​forming​ ​a​ ​new​ ​habit.

If​ ​you​ ​are​ ​ready​ ​and​ ​this​ ​is​ ​Day​ ​1​ ​for​ ​you,​ ​then​ ​let’s​ ​go​ ​ahead​ ​and​ ​get started.

Day​ ​1​

You’ve​ ​started​ ​on​ ​your​ ​journey!​ ​Congratulations​ ​are​ ​in​ ​order!​ ​Some​ ​people never​ ​make​ ​it​ ​to​ ​this​ ​very​ ​important​ ​step.​

​You​ ​have​ ​a​ ​bit​ ​of​ ​a​ ​battle​ ​ahead of​ ​you,​ ​but​ ​it​ ​will​ ​not​ ​be​ ​nearly​ ​as​ ​bad​ ​as​ ​you​ ​are​ ​imagining.​ ​

In​ ​30​ ​days, when​ ​you​ ​are​ ​doing​ ​these​ ​habits​ ​automatically​ ​and​ ​these​ ​first​ ​few​ ​days​ ​are long​ ​behind​ ​you,​ ​you​ ​are​ ​going​ ​to​ ​laugh​ ​at​ ​how​ ​easily​ ​you​ ​were​ ​able​ ​to overcome.

The​ ​most​ ​important​ ​thing​ ​that​ ​you​ ​need​ ​to​ ​remember​ ​on​ ​Day​ ​1​ ​is​ ​that​ ​you take​ ​it​ ​slow.​ ​

Sure,​ ​you​ ​want​ ​to​ ​work​ ​on​ ​your​ ​habits​ ​and​ ​try​ ​to​ ​complete them​ ​if​ ​you​ ​can,​ ​but​ ​the​ ​important​ ​thing​ ​is​ ​that​ ​you​ ​try​ ​to​ ​do​ ​at​ ​least​ ​one thing​ ​from​ ​each​ ​of​ ​the​ ​habits​ ​that​ ​you​ ​are​ ​trying​ ​to​ ​form.​ ​

You​ ​can​ ​work​ ​on improving​ ​a​ ​little​ ​bit​ ​each​ ​day,​ ​but​ ​it​ ​is​ ​vital​ ​to​ ​think​ ​about​ ​and​ ​take​ ​some kind​ ​of​ ​action​ ​on​ ​each​ ​habit​ ​you​ ​are​ ​working​ ​on,​ ​each​ ​and​ ​every​ ​day​ ​of​ ​the 30-day​ ​period.

If​ ​you​ ​happen​ ​to​ ​miss​ ​a​ ​day,​ ​all​ ​is​ ​not​ ​lost.​ ​You​ ​can​ ​simply​ ​do​ ​it​ ​the​ ​next day​ ​and​ ​make​ ​sure​ ​that​ ​you​ ​don’t​ ​miss​ ​again,​ ​if​ ​at​ ​all​ ​possible.​

​One​ ​or​ ​two misses​ ​may​ ​not​ ​keep​ ​you​ ​from​ ​developing​ ​your​ ​habit,​ ​but​ ​five​ ​or​ ​six​ ​just might.​ ​It​ ​will​ ​depend​ ​upon​ ​you.

Day​ ​2​

So,​ ​you​ ​made​ ​it​ ​through​ ​Day​ ​1,​ ​and​ ​you​ ​did​ ​the​ ​two​ ​things​ ​that​ ​were necessary​ ​to​ ​make​ ​these​ ​habits​ ​stick​ ​–​ ​you​ ​thought​ ​about​ ​doing​ ​something with​ ​them​ ​during​ ​the​ ​day​ ​and​ ​you​ ​took​ ​some​ ​kind​ ​of​ ​action​ ​on​ ​each​ ​of them.

Now,​ ​you​ ​are​ ​going​ ​to​ ​work​ ​on​ ​them​ ​just​ ​a​ ​little​ ​bit​ ​harder​ ​on​ ​Day​ ​2.​ ​

For example,​ ​if​ ​your​ ​goal​ ​was​ ​to​ ​make​ ​a​ ​habit​ ​of​ ​going​ ​to​ ​the​ ​gym​ ​and​ ​working out​ ​for​ ​30​ ​minutes​ ​a​ ​day​ ​and​ ​you​ ​exercised​ ​for​ ​10​ ​minutes​ ​on​ ​Day​ ​1,​ ​then on​ ​Day​ ​2​ ​you​ ​are​ ​going​ ​to​ ​try​ ​to​ ​go​ ​for​ ​15​ ​minutes.

Whatever​ ​you​ ​did​ ​on​ ​Day​ ​1,​ ​you​ ​are​ ​going​ ​to​ ​try​ ​to​ ​increase​ ​it​ ​on​ ​Day​ ​2.

Day​ ​3​

This​ ​is​ ​another​ ​day​ ​when​ ​you​ ​are​ ​getting​ ​used​ ​to​ ​your​ ​new​ ​habits.​ ​Don’t push​ ​yourself​ ​too​ ​hard​ ​on​ ​Day​ ​3,​ ​because​ ​it​ ​is​ ​this​ ​day​ ​when​ ​lots​ ​of​ ​people jump​ ​ship.​

​Instead​ ​of​ ​trying​ ​to​ ​fulfill​ ​your​ ​goal​ ​completely​ ​on​ ​the​ ​third​ ​day, just​ ​try​ ​to​ ​do​ ​a​ ​little​ ​bit​ ​more​ ​than​ ​you​ ​did​ ​yesterday.

Again,​ ​using​ ​the​ ​gym​ ​example,​ ​if​ ​you​ ​worked​ ​out​ ​for​ ​15​ ​minutes​ ​on​ ​Day​ ​2, then​ ​work​ ​out​ ​for​ ​20​ ​minutes​ ​on​ ​Day​ ​3​ ​and​ ​then​ ​stop,​ ​even​ ​if​ ​you​ ​think​ ​you can​ ​go​ ​longer.​ ​

If​ ​you​ ​trying​ ​for​ ​30​ ​and​ ​you​ ​find​ ​that​ ​you​ ​can​ ​only​ ​make​ ​it​ ​22 minutes,​ ​you​ ​are​ ​going​ ​to​ ​suffer​ ​a​ ​big​ ​disappointment​ ​–​ ​which​ ​could​ ​lead​ ​to a​ ​setback​ ​or​ ​an​ ​abandonment​ ​of​ ​your​ ​plan​ ​entirely.

Day​ ​4​

Now,​ ​you​ ​are​ ​getting​ ​serious​ ​about​ ​your​ ​plan.​ ​Today​ ​is​ ​the​ ​day​ ​when​ ​you are​ ​going​ ​to​ ​make​ ​your​ ​first​ ​attempt​ ​at​ ​completing​ ​your​ ​habit​ ​entirely.​ ​

If your​ ​goal​ ​is​ ​to​ ​work​ ​out​ ​for​ ​30​ ​minutes​ ​per​ ​day,​ ​then​ ​you​ ​are​ ​going​ ​to​ ​do your​ ​very​ ​best​ ​to​ ​stay​ ​at​ ​the​ ​gym​ ​and​ ​be​ ​active​ ​until​ ​that​ ​30​ ​minutes​ ​is​ ​up.

Don’t​ ​worry​ ​if​ ​you​ ​cannot​ ​do​ ​it.​ ​This​ ​is​ ​sort​ ​of​ ​a​ ​trial​ ​run,​ ​and​ ​you​ ​still​ ​have one​ ​more​ ​day​ ​to​ ​perfect​ ​your​ ​technique​ ​if​ ​you​ ​cannot​ ​make​ ​it​ ​the​ ​entire day.​ ​

But​ ​if​ ​you​ ​find​ ​yourself​ ​putting​ ​off​ ​the​ ​actions​ ​that​ ​will​ ​develop​ ​your habits,​ ​sit​ ​down​ ​and​ ​remind​ ​yourself​ ​how​ ​important​ ​they​ ​are​ ​to​ ​you.

The​ ​important​ ​thing​ ​on​ ​Day​ ​4​ ​is​ ​to​ ​do​ ​your​ ​very​ ​best​ ​to​ ​complete​ ​as​ ​many habits​ ​in​ ​their​ ​entirety​ ​as​ ​possible.​

​If​ ​you​ ​can’t,​ ​then​ ​you​ ​still​ ​have tomorrow,​ ​but​ ​if​ ​you​ ​can,​ ​then​ ​you’ll​ ​have​ ​a​ ​big​ ​head​ ​start​ ​on​ ​your remaining​ ​25​ ​days.

Day​ ​5​

So,​ ​Day​ ​5​ ​has​ ​arrived.​ ​You​ ​have​ ​been​ ​building​ ​up​ ​to​ ​this​ ​moment​ ​for​ ​the past​ ​few​ ​days.​ ​

​Once​ ​you​ ​complete​ ​your​ ​new​ ​habits​ ​for​ ​this​ ​day,​ ​you​ ​will​ ​be over​ ​the​ ​steepest​ ​part​ ​of​ ​the​ ​hill​ ​and​ ​headed​ ​for​ ​the​ ​downhill​ ​slope.​ ​Do everything​ ​in​ ​your​ ​power​ ​to​ ​complete​ ​all​ ​of​ ​your​ ​habits​ ​all​ ​the​ ​way​ ​today.

If​ ​your​ ​goal​ ​is​ ​30​ ​minutes​ ​in​ ​the​ ​gym​ ​and​ ​1000​ ​words​ ​on​ ​your​ ​novel,​ ​make sure​ ​that​ ​you​ ​complete​ ​every​ ​minute​ ​and​ ​every​ ​word.​

​This​ ​is​ ​the​ ​best​ ​way that​ ​you​ ​can​ ​enter​ ​the​ ​remaining​ ​25​ ​days​ ​of​ ​your​ ​challenge​ ​with​ ​the confidence​ ​to​ ​complete​ ​the​ ​full​ ​30​ ​days​ ​and​ ​learn​ ​the​ ​habits​ ​that​ ​you​ ​have decided​ ​upon.


Chapter 9: Your Remaining 25 Days

keep calm and count down 25 days left

So,​ ​you​ ​have​ ​made​ ​it​ ​through​ ​the​ ​first​ ​5​ ​days​ ​of​ ​your​ ​30​ ​days​ ​to​ ​success! Congratulations​ ​again!​ ​Everything​ ​from​ ​here​ ​is​ ​a​ ​piece​ ​of​ ​cake,​ ​but​ ​don’t​ ​let your​ ​guard​ ​down.​ ​

​You​ ​still​ ​might​ ​have​ ​days​ ​where​ ​you​ ​feel​ ​like​ ​giving​ ​up, where​ ​you​ ​think​ ​that​ ​this​ ​is​ ​never​ ​going​ ​to​ ​work,​ ​and​ ​that​ ​your​ ​brain​ ​is unwilling​ ​to​ ​get​ ​the​ ​message​ ​that​ ​these​ ​are​ ​habits​ ​that​ ​you​ ​need​ ​to​ ​form.

First​ ​of​ ​all,​ ​take​ ​a​ ​look​ ​back​ ​at​ ​the​ ​past​ ​few​ ​days.​ ​Was​ ​it​ ​a​ ​struggle?​ ​If​ ​the answer​ ​was​ ​no,​ ​then​ ​you​ ​might​ ​not​ ​have​ ​been​ ​trying​ ​hard​ ​enough​ ​or challenging​ ​yourself​ ​enough.​

​For​ ​most​ ​people,​ ​getting​ ​through​ ​the​ ​first​ ​few days​ ​is​ ​a​ ​major​ ​struggle.

But​ ​no​ ​matter​ ​how​ ​hard​ ​or​ ​easy​ ​the​ ​past​ ​few​ ​days​ ​were,​ ​the​ ​good​ ​news​ ​is, now​ ​you​ ​can​ ​forget​ ​about​ ​that​ ​portion​ ​of​ ​your​ ​habit-forming​ ​plan.​

​Never again​ ​will​ ​you​ ​have​ ​to​ ​do​ ​those​ ​grueling​ ​first​ ​few​ ​days​ ​–​ ​unless​ ​of​ ​course, you​ ​give​ ​up​ ​somewhere​ ​in​ ​the​ ​near​ ​future​ ​and​ ​have​ ​to​ ​start​ ​all​ ​over​ ​again later​ ​on.

So,​ ​let’s​ ​go​ ​through​ ​the​ ​rest​ ​of​ ​your​ ​30​ ​days,​ ​one​ ​at​ ​a​ ​time,​ ​with​ ​a​ ​little inspiration​ ​and​ ​motivation​ ​to​ ​carry​ ​you​ ​through​ ​the​ ​rest​ ​of​ ​the​ ​period.

Day​ ​6​

You​ ​are​ ​doing​ ​a​ ​great​ ​job!​ ​You​ ​have​ ​made​ ​it​ ​through​ ​the​ ​toughest part,​ ​and​ ​now​ ​it’s​ ​time​ ​to​ ​stick​ ​to​ ​those​ ​habits​ ​and​ ​make​ ​them​ ​your​ ​own.

Day​ ​7​

Remember,​ ​when​ ​you​ ​make​ ​a​ ​mistake​ ​or​ ​have​ ​a​ ​slip,​ ​it’s​ ​not​ ​proof that​ ​you​ ​are​ ​going​ ​to​ ​fail.​ ​The​ ​only​ ​thing​ ​it​ ​proves​ ​is​ ​that​ ​you​ ​are​ ​trying.

Day​ ​8​

You​ ​are​ ​amazing!​ ​You​ ​have​ ​made​ ​it​ ​through​ ​an​ ​entire​ ​week​ ​of forming​ ​a​ ​new​ ​habit.​ ​You​ ​are​ ​a​ ​quarter​ ​of​ ​the​ ​way​ ​there,​ ​and​ ​you​ ​are getting​ ​close​ ​to​ ​the​ ​downhill​ ​slope​ ​of​ ​this​ ​plan.

Day​ ​9​

Desire​ ​is​ ​the​ ​key​ ​to​ ​motivation​ ​but​ ​it​ ​is​ ​your​ ​persistence,​ ​hard​ ​work, and​ ​sheer​ ​determination​ ​that​ ​will​ ​actually​ ​get​ ​you​ ​through​ ​the​ ​doorway​ ​of your​ ​dreams.

Day​ ​10​

Guess​ ​what?​ ​You​ ​are​ ​1/3​ ​of​ ​the​ ​way​ ​there.​ ​You​ ​have​ ​done​ ​better than​ ​more​ ​than​ ​60%​ ​of​ ​the​ ​people​ ​who​ ​set​ ​out​ ​to​ ​develop​ ​new​ ​habits.​ ​You are​ ​not​ ​yet​ ​part​ ​of​ ​the​ ​successful​ ​elite,​ ​but​ ​you​ ​are​ ​well​ ​on​ ​your​ ​way!

Day​ ​11​

Take​ ​this​ ​day​ ​and​ ​skip​ ​your​ ​habits​ ​to​ ​do​ ​a​ ​self-evaluation.​ ​Do​ ​you think​ ​you​ ​are​ ​working​ ​as​ ​hard​ ​as​ ​you​ ​can​ ​towards​ ​your​ ​goals?​ ​Do​ ​you​ ​feel like​ ​your​ ​habits​ ​are​ ​really​ ​starting​ ​to​ ​stick?​ ​

Do​ ​you​ ​need​ ​to​ ​adjust​ ​your triggers​ ​or​ ​throw​ ​some​ ​of​ ​them​ ​out​ ​completely?​ ​Take​ ​this​ ​day​ ​and​ ​make sure​ ​that​ ​you​ ​are​ ​on​ ​track​ ​and​ ​that​ ​nothing​ ​in​ ​your​ ​plan​ ​needs​ ​adjusted.

Day​ ​12​

Remember​ ​back​ ​to​ ​Day​ ​1?​ ​​ ​You​ ​never​ ​thought​ ​you​ ​would​ ​make​ ​it this​ ​far.​ ​But​ ​here​ ​you​ ​are​ ​almost​ ​halfway​ ​through​ ​the​ ​month.​

​You​ ​should complete​ ​your​ ​habits​ ​today,​ ​but​ ​you​ ​should​ ​also​ ​think​ ​about​ ​what​ ​your​ ​life is​ ​going​ ​to​ ​look​ ​like​ ​when​ ​you​ ​reach​ ​your​ ​goals​ ​and​ ​you​ ​get​ ​the​ ​rewards from​ ​forming​ ​these​ ​habits.​ ​

Come​ ​up​ ​with​ ​actual​ ​scenarios​ ​and​ ​make​ ​them as​ ​close​ ​to​ ​reality​ ​as​ ​possible.

Day​ ​13

Remember,​ ​your​ ​beliefs​ ​become​ ​your​ ​thoughts,​ ​your​ ​thoughts become​ ​your​ ​actions,​ ​your​ ​actions​ ​become​ ​your​ ​habits,​ ​and​ ​your​ ​habits become​ ​you.

Day​ ​14​

Remember​ ​this​ ​whenever​ ​you​ ​think​ ​that​ ​your​ ​work​ ​in​ ​developing permanent​ ​habits​ ​is​ ​having​ ​no​ ​effect.​ ​​ ​​“The​ ​chains​ ​of​ ​habit​ ​are​ ​too​ ​weak​ ​to be​ ​felt​ ​until​ ​they​ ​are​ ​too​ ​strong​ ​to​ ​be​ ​broken.” ​​―​ ​Samuel​ ​Johnson

Day​ ​15​

You​ ​have​ ​reached​ ​the​ ​halfway​ ​point​ ​of​ ​your​ ​30-day​ ​period!​ ​You​ ​are halfway​ ​to​ ​making​ ​the​ ​habits​ ​that​ ​you​ ​are​ ​working​ ​on​ ​permanent.​ ​

At​ ​this point,​ ​you​ ​should​ ​be​ ​remembering​ ​to​ ​complete​ ​your​ ​habits​ ​even​ ​without​ ​the triggers​ ​that​ ​you​ ​have​ ​designed.​

​Of​ ​course,​ ​this​ ​doesn’t​ ​mean​ ​that​ ​you should​ ​stop​ ​using​ ​the​ ​triggers,​ ​but​ ​just​ ​be​ ​aware​ ​that​ ​this​ ​might​ ​be​ ​a milestone.

Days​ ​16-20​

This​ ​five-day​ ​period​ ​is​ ​going​ ​to​ ​be​ ​your​ ​first​ ​of​ ​three​ ​sprints.​ ​If you​ ​have​ ​been​ ​slacking​ ​off​ ​and​ ​haven’t​ ​been​ ​giving​ ​100%​ ​of​ ​your​ ​effort​ ​to your​ ​habits,​ ​these​ ​sprints​ ​are​ ​designed​ ​to​ ​bring​ ​them​ ​back​ ​on​ ​track.

First,​ ​spend​ ​a​ ​day​ ​reviewing​ ​your​ ​motivation​ ​again​ ​and​ ​making​ ​sure​ ​that you​ ​don’t​ ​need​ ​to​ ​adjust​ ​any​ ​of​ ​your​ ​strategies.​ ​The​ ​remaining​ ​four​ ​days, you​ ​are​ ​going​ ​to​ ​go​ ​above​ ​and​ ​beyond​ ​your​ ​original​ ​plan.

If​ ​you​ ​were​ ​going​ ​to​ ​spend​ ​30​ ​minutes​ ​at​ ​the​ ​gym​ ​per​ ​day,​ ​then​ ​you​ ​will spend​ ​35​ ​minutes​ ​on​ ​the​ ​four​ ​days​ ​that​ ​you​ ​are​ ​doing​ ​the​ ​sprint.​ ​

If​ ​you were​ ​going​ ​to​ ​spend​ ​an​ ​extra​ ​hour​ ​working​ ​on​ ​your​ ​online​ ​business,​ ​then spend​ ​an​ ​extra​ ​hour​ ​and​ ​fifteen​ ​minutes.

Days​ ​21-25

This​ ​is​ ​sprint​ ​#2.​ ​This​ ​is​ ​going​ ​to​ ​be​ ​the​ ​same,​ ​except​ ​that​ ​you don’t​ ​need​ ​to​ ​spend​ ​a​ ​day​ ​reviewing​ ​your​ ​motivation​ ​and​ ​changing​ ​your strategy.​ ​This​ ​is​ ​going​ ​to​ ​be​ ​a​ ​full-on,​ ​five-day​ ​sprint.

Days​ ​26-30​

This​ ​is​ ​your​ ​third​ ​sprint.​ ​

This​ ​time,​ ​you​ ​are​ ​going​ ​to​ ​do​ ​a four-day​ ​sprint​ ​again,​ ​but​ ​on​ ​Day​ ​26​ ​when​ ​you​ ​sit​ ​down​ ​to​ ​evaluate​ ​your progress,​ ​this​ ​time​ ​you​ ​are​ ​going​ ​to​ ​draw​ ​a​ ​timeline​ ​to​ ​the​ ​future​ ​in​ ​order​ ​to see​ ​how​ ​these​ ​habits​ ​will​ ​change​ ​your​ ​life​ ​if​ ​you​ ​keep​ ​them​ ​up​ ​after​ ​the​ ​30 days.

Remember,​ ​you​ ​are​ ​coming​ ​to​ ​the​ ​end​ ​of​ ​your​ ​journey,​ ​and​ ​that​ ​can sometimes​ ​result​ ​in​ ​relaxing​ ​for​ ​a​ ​few​ ​days​ ​after​ ​such​ ​a​ ​difficult​ ​journey.​ ​

But at​ ​this​ ​point,​ ​these​ ​habits​ ​should​ ​be​ ​second​ ​nature​ ​to​ ​you,​ ​and​ ​there shouldn’t​ ​be​ ​much​ ​effort​ ​involved​ ​in​ ​completing​ ​them.

If​ ​you​ ​are​ ​still​ ​struggling,​ ​then​ ​it​ ​is​ ​more​ ​important​ ​than​ ​ever​ ​not​ ​to​ ​take​ ​a break​ ​for​ ​several​ ​days​ ​and​ ​instead,​ ​to​ ​keep​ ​pushing​ ​forward.​

​The​ ​next chapter​ ​will​ ​give​ ​you​ ​some​ ​suggestions​ ​on​ ​how​ ​to​ ​push​ ​past​ ​the​ ​first​ ​30 days.


Chapter 10: Beyond 30 Days

beyond 30 days

This​ ​chapter​ ​is​ ​meant​ ​to​ ​guide​ ​you​ ​after​ ​your​ ​first​ ​30​ ​days​ ​have​ ​passed.​ ​If you​ ​made​ ​it​ ​through​ ​the​ ​30​ ​days,​ ​you​ ​should​ ​be​ ​feeling​ ​pretty​ ​good​ ​about yourself.

But​ ​now​ ​is​ ​not​ ​the​ ​time​ ​to​ ​slack​ ​off​ ​and​ ​let​ ​your​ ​guard,​ ​down​ ​because​ ​even though​ ​you​ ​have​ ​ingrained​ ​those​ ​habits​ ​into​ ​your​ ​brain,​ ​you​ ​are​ ​still​ ​going to​ ​have​ ​to​ ​put​ ​forth​ ​some​ ​effort​ ​for​ ​the​ ​next​ ​few​ ​weeks.

This​ ​will​ ​be​ ​nowhere​ ​near​ ​the​ ​monumental​ ​effort​ ​that​ ​you​ ​had​ ​to​ ​make during​ ​the​ ​first​ ​30​ ​days,​ ​but​ ​it​ ​is​ ​still​ ​going​ ​to​ ​take​ ​some​ ​work.​ ​

Here​ ​are some​ ​steps​ ​to​ ​follow​ ​as​ ​you​ ​leave​ ​the​ ​training​ ​level​ ​and​ ​progress​ ​to​ ​the maintenance​ ​one.

Step​ ​1:​ ​Do​ ​a​ ​Self-Evaluation

The​ ​first​ ​thing​ ​that​ ​you​ ​need​ ​to​ ​do​ ​is​ ​an​ ​honest,​ ​no-holds-barred self-evaluation.​

​You​ ​need​ ​to​ ​determine​ ​if​ ​1)​ ​you​ ​tried​ ​as​ ​hard​ ​as​ ​you​ ​could and​ ​put​ ​forth​ ​your​ ​best​ ​effort​ ​over​ ​the​ ​past​ ​30​ ​days,​ ​and​ ​2)​ ​if​ ​you​ ​feel​ ​that your​ ​habits​ ​are​ ​deeply​ ​ingrained.

Step​ ​2:​ ​Repeat​ ​if​ ​Necessary

Remember,​ ​these​ ​are​ ​habits​ ​that​ ​you​ ​are​ ​forming​ ​to​ ​reach​ ​a​ ​goal​ ​in​ ​12 months.​ ​If​ ​you​ ​do​ ​not​ ​have​ ​a​ ​good​ ​foundation,​ ​then​ ​you​ ​are​ ​not​ ​going​ ​to reach​ ​your​ ​goal.​ ​

If​ ​you​ ​haven’t​ ​been​ ​able​ ​to​ ​ingrain​ ​these​ ​habits​ ​as​ ​deeply as​ ​you’d​ ​like,​ ​then​ ​go​ ​through​ ​the​ ​30-day​ ​process​ ​again.

Step​ ​3:​ ​Determine​ ​Your​ ​Next​ ​Step

Assuming​ ​that​ ​you​ ​aren’t​ ​going​ ​to​ ​repeat​ ​your​ ​30-day​ ​cycle​ ​again,​ ​decide what​ ​your​ ​next​ ​step​ ​is​ ​going​ ​to​ ​be.​

​You​ ​may​ ​have​ ​a​ ​whole​ ​new​ ​list​ ​of​ ​habits that​ ​you​ ​want​ ​to​ ​start​ ​developing​ ​in​ ​order​ ​to​ ​reach​ ​your​ ​goal​ ​after​ ​12 months.

Step​ ​4:​ ​Don’t​ ​Forget​ ​Reinforcement

Even​ ​as​ ​you​ ​are​ ​developing​ ​new​ ​habits,​ ​if​ ​you​ ​find​ ​yourself​ ​slacking​ ​off​ ​or forgetting​ ​about​ ​habits​ ​that​ ​you​ ​have​ ​already​ ​developed,​ ​then​ ​make​ ​sure that​ ​you​ ​reinforce​ ​them​ ​with​ ​thought​ ​and​ ​action.​ ​

You​ ​don’t​ ​want​ ​to​ ​lose what​ ​you​ ​worked​ ​so​ ​hard​ ​to​ ​attain​ ​in​ ​the​ ​first​ ​place.

What​ ​a​ ​Year​ ​of​ ​Habit​ ​Development​ ​Might​ ​Look​ ​Like

In​ ​this​ ​section,​ ​we​ ​are​ ​going​ ​to​ ​try​ ​to​ ​project​ ​your​ ​habit​ ​development​ ​into the​ ​future​ ​so​ ​that​ ​you​ ​can​ ​see​ ​what​ ​happens​ ​beyond​ ​the​ ​initial​ ​30​ ​days.​

​For simplicity’s​ ​sake,​ ​we​ ​will​ ​take​ ​just​ ​two​ ​goals​ ​and​ ​work​ ​with​ ​them​ ​over​ ​a 12-month​ ​timeline.

In​ ​this​ ​case,​ ​we​ ​are​ ​using​ ​the​ ​following​ ​12-month​ ​goals:

  1. Lose​ ​50​ ​pounds,​ ​get​ ​in​ ​better​ ​shape,​ ​improve​ ​health
  2. Create​ ​an​ ​alternative​ ​income​ ​stream​ ​of​ ​$12K​ ​per​ ​year

So,​ ​now​ ​we​ ​have​ ​the​ ​two​ ​goals.​ ​Let’s​ ​determine​ ​what​ ​sort​ ​of​ ​habits​ ​might have​ ​been​ ​chosen​ ​for​ ​the​ ​first​ ​30-day​ ​period.

  1. Work​ ​out​ ​daily​ ​for​ ​30​ ​minutes
  2. Cut​ ​down​ ​by​ ​500​ ​calories​ ​per​ ​day

As​ ​mentioned,​ ​sometimes​ ​you​ ​have​ ​to​ ​create​ ​complementary​ ​habits​ ​in order​ ​to​ ​make​ ​actions​ ​a​ ​reality.​ ​In​ ​this​ ​case,​ ​we​ ​have​ ​an​ ​exercise​ ​habit​ ​that can​ ​pretty​ ​much​ ​stand​ ​on​ ​its​ ​own.​ ​

The​ ​only​ ​way​ ​that​ ​you​ ​might​ ​add​ ​to​ ​it​ ​is by​ ​coming​ ​up​ ​with​ ​daily​ ​goals​ ​or​ ​habits​ ​for​ ​your​ ​specific​ ​workouts.

For​ ​example,​ ​if​ ​you​ ​are​ ​doing​ ​strength​ ​training​ ​on​ ​Monday,​ ​Wednesday, and​ ​Friday,​ ​cardio​ ​on​ ​Thursday​ ​and​ ​Saturday,​ ​and​ ​abs​ ​on​ ​Sunday,​ ​then you​ ​can​ ​come​ ​up​ ​with​ ​individual​ ​fitness​ ​goals​ ​for​ ​those​ ​activities,​ ​perhaps using​ ​one​ ​of​ ​the​ ​hundreds​ ​of​ ​apps​ ​available.

As​ ​for​ ​the​ ​diet​ ​goal,​ ​you​ ​are​ ​going​ ​to​ ​need​ ​some​ ​way​ ​to​ ​track​ ​whether​ ​or not​ ​you​ ​are​ ​actually​ ​cutting​ ​out​ ​3500​ ​calories​ ​per​ ​week.​ ​An​ ​app​ ​like MyFitnessPal​ ​comes​ ​to​ ​mind.

The​ ​point​ ​is​ ​that​ ​you​ ​will​ ​need​ ​a​ ​plan​ ​that​ ​incorporates​ ​several​ ​habits​ ​if​ ​you want​ ​to​ ​make​ ​these​ ​generalized​ ​habits​ ​stick​ ​–​ ​and​ ​actually​ ​work​ ​towards your​ ​main​ ​two​ ​goals.​ ​Let’s​ ​take​ ​a​ ​look​ ​at​ ​what​ ​that​ ​specific​ ​plan​ ​might​ ​look like.

30​ ​Day​ ​Plan​ ​for​ ​Developing​ ​Habits

  • Habit​ ​1:​ ​Log​ ​meals​ ​immediately​ ​into​ ​MyFitnessPal​ ​App​ ​[Trigger:​ ​Eating]
  • Habit​ ​2:​ ​Keep​ ​track​ ​of​ ​calories​ ​throughout​ ​the​ ​day​ ​and​ ​take​ ​in​ ​500​ ​calories below​ ​amount​ ​needed​ ​to​ ​maintain​ ​weight​ ​(app​ ​will​ ​tell​ ​you).​ ​[Trigger: Logging​ ​meals]
  • Habit​ ​3:​ ​Spend​ ​30​ ​minutes​ ​per​ ​day​ ​working​ ​out​ ​[Trigger:​ ​Waking​ ​up]
  • Habit​ ​4:​ ​Track​ ​workout​ ​progress​ ​using​ ​YourGymDaily​ ​(Name​ ​made​ ​up) app.​ ​Enter​ ​reps,​ ​weight,​ ​sets,​ ​etc.​ ​[Trigger:​ ​After​ ​finishing​ ​sets]
  • Habit​ ​5:​ ​Follow​ ​goals​ ​outlined​ ​by​ ​the​ ​app​ ​and​ ​put​ ​forth​ ​as​ ​much​ ​effort​ ​as possible​ ​to​ ​achieve​ ​them.​ ​[Trigger:​ ​review​ ​prior​ ​to​ ​workout]

The​ ​Rest​ ​of​ ​the​ ​Year

As​ ​you​ ​can​ ​imagine,​ ​the​ ​rest​ ​of​ ​the​ ​year​ ​might​ ​look​ ​similar.​ ​But​ ​the difference​ ​is,​ ​you​ ​are​ ​going​ ​to​ ​be​ ​tracking​ ​your​ ​progress​ ​the​ ​entire​ ​way through​ ​the​ ​apps​ ​or​ ​some​ ​other​ ​method.

You​ ​may​ ​have​ ​to​ ​change​ ​your​ ​triggers​ ​as​ ​your​ ​life​ ​and​ ​circumstances change.​ ​​

Your​ ​habits​ ​should​ ​remain​ ​basically​ ​the​ ​same,​ ​unless​ ​you​ ​find​ ​that you​ ​are​ ​absolutely​ ​unable​ ​to​ ​do​ ​them​ ​as​ ​they​ ​are,​ ​in​ ​which​ ​case,​ ​then​ ​they must​ ​be​ ​adjusted.


Chapter 11: Overcoming Barriers

overcoming barriers to success

In​ ​this​ ​final​ ​chapter​ ​of​ ​the​ ​book,​ ​we​ ​are​ ​going​ ​to​ ​discuss​ ​some​ ​strategies​ ​for overcoming​ ​barriers​ ​to​ ​your​ ​success.​ ​

No​ ​matter​ ​who​ ​you​ ​are,​ ​and​ ​no matter​ ​what​ ​your​ ​life,​ ​family,​ ​friends,​ ​financial​ ​situation,​ ​or​ ​health​ ​is​ ​like,​ ​you are​ ​going​ ​to​ ​face​ ​obstacles.​ ​It’s​ ​just​ ​a​ ​set-in-stone​ ​fact​ ​of​ ​vying​ ​for​ ​success.

Everyone​ ​encounters​ ​obstacles,​ ​but​ ​it​ ​is​ ​how​ ​you​ ​overcome​ ​them​ ​that determines​ ​what​ ​sort​ ​of​ ​success​ ​you​ ​achieve.

Identifying​ ​Barriers​ ​to​ ​Success

When​ ​it​ ​comes​ ​to​ ​overcoming​ ​barriers​ ​to​ ​success,​ ​you​ ​first​ ​have​ ​to​ ​identify them.​ ​Obstacles​ ​can​ ​come​ ​from​ ​different​ ​parts​ ​of​ ​your​ ​life,​ ​and​ ​often,​ ​you create​ ​them​ ​yourself.​ ​

Some​ ​of​ ​that​ ​has​ ​already​ ​been​ ​discussed​ ​and resolved​ ​here,​ ​with​ ​the​ ​program​ ​laid​ ​out​ ​in​ ​this​ ​book,​ ​but​ ​there​ ​are​ ​still going​ ​to​ ​be​ ​other​ ​obstacles​ ​that​ ​you​ ​have​ ​to​ ​deal​ ​with.

Let’s​ ​go​ ​over​ ​the​ ​eight​ ​most​ ​common​ ​obstacles​ ​to​ ​success,​ ​including​ ​a strategy​ ​for​ ​overcoming​ ​that​ ​particular​ ​barrier,​ ​so​ ​that​ ​you​ ​can​ ​stay​ ​on​ ​track and​ ​actually​ ​get​ ​your​ ​habits​ ​to​ ​stick,​ ​no​ ​matter​ ​what​ ​comes​ ​at​ ​you.

Barrier​ ​1:​ ​Your​ ​Confidence

The​ ​first​ ​barrier​ ​that​ ​we​ ​are​ ​going​ ​to​ ​discuss​ ​is​ ​your​ ​confidence. Unfortunately,​ ​this​ ​is​ ​something​ ​that​ ​you​ ​are​ ​going​ ​to​ ​have​ ​to​ ​cultivate​ ​on your​ ​own.​ ​

This​ ​program​ ​will​ ​give​ ​you​ ​the​ ​tools​ ​that​ ​you​ ​need​ ​to​ ​achieve​ ​just about​ ​any​ ​goal​ ​or​ ​develop​ ​any​ ​habit,​ ​but​ ​if​ ​you​ ​don’t​ ​have​ ​confidence​ ​in yourself​ ​to​ ​succeed,​ ​you​ ​are​ ​going​ ​to​ ​find​ ​it​ ​very​ ​hard​ ​to​ ​keep​ ​going.

Barrier​ ​2:​ ​Your​ ​Motivation

Your​ ​motivation​ ​is​ ​a​ ​big​ ​factor​ ​as​ ​well.​ ​This​ ​program​ ​has​ ​tried​ ​to​ ​show​ ​you how​ ​to​ ​motivate​ ​yourself​ ​as​ ​much​ ​as​ ​possible​ ​using​ ​12-month​ ​goals.​

​These goals​ ​should​ ​be​ ​something​ ​that​ ​you​ ​really​ ​want​ ​in​ ​your​ ​life,​ ​not​ ​something that​ ​someone​ ​else​ ​wants​ ​for​ ​you.​ ​Your​ ​goals​ ​need​ ​to​ ​motivate​ ​you​ ​and keep​ ​you​ ​going​ ​when​ ​you​ ​feel​ ​like​ ​quitting.

Barrier​ ​3:​ ​Your​ ​Plan

Again,​ ​the​ ​lack​ ​of​ ​a​ ​plan​ ​can​ ​be​ ​a​ ​major​ ​barrier​ ​to​ ​success.​ ​

But​ ​this​ ​entire guide​ ​is​ ​your​ ​plan,​ ​from​ ​the​ ​12-month​ ​goals​ ​that​ ​you​ ​set,​ ​to​ ​the​ ​very​ ​habits that​ ​you​ ​practice​ ​and​ ​work​ ​on​ ​every​ ​day​ ​in​ ​order​ ​to​ ​get​ ​to​ ​those​ ​goals.

Barrier​ ​4:​ ​The​ ​Naysayers

You​ ​are​ ​going​ ​to​ ​have​ ​people​ ​in​ ​your​ ​life​ ​telling​ ​you​ ​that​ ​you​ ​are​ ​bound​ ​to fail.​ ​Some​ ​of​ ​these​ ​people​ ​may​ ​even​ ​be​ ​loved​ ​ones​ ​or​ ​friends.​ ​Others​ ​will be​ ​jealous​ ​coworkers​ ​or​ ​others​ ​you​ ​cross​ ​paths​ ​with.​ ​

Don’t​ ​listen​ ​to​ ​the naysayers.​ ​They​ ​have​ ​nothing​ ​meaningful​ ​to​ ​share​ ​with​ ​you,​ ​and​ ​often,​ ​the only​ ​reason​ ​that​ ​they​ ​are​ ​trying​ ​to​ ​prevent​ ​you​ ​from​ ​being​ ​successful​ ​is because​ ​misery​ ​loves​ ​company.

Barrier​ ​5:​ ​Financial​ ​Obstacles

This​ ​can​ ​be​ ​a​ ​major​ ​barrier​ ​for​ ​certain​ ​goals.​ ​

For​ ​example,​ ​if​ ​you​ ​want​ ​to start​ ​a​ ​business​ ​but​ ​you​ ​have​ ​no​ ​money,​ ​no​ ​credit,​ ​no​ ​collateral,​ ​and​ ​no prospects,​ ​you​ ​are​ ​going​ ​to​ ​have​ ​more​ ​of​ ​a​ ​challenge​ ​than​ ​someone​ ​who has​ ​those​ ​things.​ ​

But​ ​nothing​ ​is​ ​impossible,​ ​and​ ​if​ ​you​ ​want​ ​to​ ​succeed, you​ ​need​ ​to​ ​do​ ​some​ ​research​ ​and​ ​find​ ​a​ ​way​ ​to​ ​overcome.

Barrier​ ​6:​ ​Health-Related​ ​Obstacles

Sometimes,​ ​your​ ​health​ ​can​ ​turn​ ​down​ ​a​ ​bad​ ​road​ ​and​ ​it​ ​can​ ​be​ ​difficult​ ​to continue​ ​working​ ​on​ ​your​ ​goals​ ​in​ ​the​ ​face​ ​of​ ​a​ ​heart​ ​condition,​ ​a​ ​disease like​ ​diabetes,​ ​or​ ​even​ ​obesity,​ ​which​ ​can​ ​make​ ​it​ ​difficult​ ​to​ ​move​ ​around.

The​ ​only​ ​advice​ ​here​ ​is​ ​that​ ​whether​ ​your​ ​health​ ​issues​ ​stop​ ​you​ ​from achieving​ ​your​ ​goals​ ​will​ ​depend​ ​entirely​ ​upon​ ​how​ ​much​ ​you​ ​want​ ​to achieve​ ​them.

Barrier​ ​7:​ ​Personal​ ​Tragedy​ ​or​ ​Difficult​ ​Circumstances

Again,​ ​one​ ​of​ ​the​ ​things​ ​that​ ​often​ ​stop​ ​a​ ​person​ ​in​ ​their​ ​tracks​ ​while​ ​they are​ ​attempting​ ​to​ ​be​ ​successful​ ​is​ ​personal​ ​circumstances.​ ​

A​ ​tragedy​ ​in your​ ​life​ ​or​ ​difficult​ ​circumstances​ ​beyond​ ​your​ ​control​ ​can​ ​be​ ​challenging and​ ​you​ ​will​ ​have​ ​to​ ​decide​ ​if​ ​you​ ​want​ ​to​ ​continue​ ​working​ ​towards success.

Barrier​ ​8:​ ​Well-Meaning​ ​Friends​ ​&​ ​Family

Sometimes,​ ​your​ ​family​ ​and​ ​friends​ ​will​ ​become​ ​obstacles​ ​even​ ​when​ ​they have​ ​the​ ​best​ ​intentions​ ​in​ ​mind.​ ​

Have​ ​you​ ​heard​ ​the​ ​cliché​ ​about​ ​the mother​ ​who​ ​wants​ ​to​ ​show​ ​her​ ​son​ ​how​ ​much​ ​she​ ​cares​ ​after​ ​she​ ​sees​ ​him suffering​ ​all​ ​day​ ​exercising​ ​and​ ​trying​ ​to​ ​eat​ ​right​ ​to​ ​lose​ ​weight​ ​so​ ​she prepares​ ​him​ ​a​ ​huge​ ​meal?

Sometimes,​ ​family​ ​and​ ​friends​ ​will​ ​think​ ​they​ ​are​ ​helping​ ​when​ ​they​ ​are actually​ ​becoming​ ​obstacles.​ ​​ ​You​ ​will​ ​simply​ ​have​ ​to​ ​let​ ​them​ ​know​ ​that they​ ​aren’t​ ​helping.


Chapter 12: Conclusion

the great thing in this life is not so much where we are, but in what direction we are moving

You​ ​have​ ​reached​ ​the​ ​end​ ​of​ ​this​ ​guide ​and​ ​have​ ​hopefully​ ​come​ ​away​ ​with not​ ​only​ ​tools​ ​to​ ​help​ ​you​ ​develop​ ​habits,​ ​but​ ​an​ ​actual​ ​plan-of-action​ ​that will​ ​guide​ ​you​ ​throughout​ ​the​ ​30-day​ ​period​ ​that​ ​you​ ​need​ ​to​ ​begin​ ​habit development.

It​ ​is​ ​important​ ​to​ ​reiterate​ ​here​ ​that​ ​the​ ​30-day​ ​rule​ ​here​ ​is​ ​not​ ​set​ ​in​ ​stone. It​ ​is​ ​used​ ​as​ ​a​ ​guideline​ ​because​ ​it​ ​is​ ​a​ ​happy​ ​medium​ ​between​ ​what science​ ​has​ ​found​ ​when​ ​it​ ​comes​ ​to​ ​creating​ ​new​ ​habits.​

​Some​ ​studies found​ ​that​ ​it​ ​can​ ​take​ ​as​ ​few​ ​as​ ​18​ ​days​ ​to​ ​form​ ​a​ ​new​ ​habit​ ​and​ ​others clocked​ ​it​ ​at​ ​just​ ​over​ ​60​ ​days.​ ​

But​ ​regardless​ ​of​ ​which​ ​study​ ​you​ ​choose​ ​to believe,​ ​30​ ​days​ ​is​ ​a​ ​solid​ ​guideline​ ​for​ ​starting​ ​new​ ​habits.

Summarizing​ ​the​ ​Key​ ​Points

  • The ​​definition​​ of ​​success​​ is​​ more ​​of​​ a​​ journey​​ than ​​a​​ destination, ​​with stops​ ​along​ ​the​ ​way​ ​that​ ​act​ ​as​ ​goals​ ​for​ ​you​ ​to​ ​shoot​ ​towards.​ ​You will​ ​be​ ​continuing​ ​the​ ​journey​ ​for​ ​the​ ​rest​ ​of​ ​your​ ​life,​ ​but​ ​there​ ​are stops​ ​along​ ​the​ ​way​ ​that​ ​are​ ​going​ ​to​ ​make​ ​your​ ​life​ ​so​ ​much​ ​better and​ ​give​ ​you​ ​the​ ​success​ ​that​ ​you​ ​want.
  • Understand​​ how​​ the ​​psychology​​ of​​ habitual​​ actions ​​works,​​ as explained​ ​in​ ​Chapter​ ​2,​ ​because​ ​then​ ​you​ ​will​ ​be​ ​able​ ​to​ ​look​ ​at​ ​your own​ ​goals​ ​and​ ​habits​ ​much​ ​more​ ​objectively.
  • Use​​ the​​ YEAR-MONTH-DAY ​​system ​​of​​ setting​​ goals​​ (if ​​it​​ helps ​​you). You​ ​set​ ​a​ ​yearly​ ​goal​ ​and​ ​then​ ​break​ ​it​ ​down​ ​to​ ​what​ ​you​ ​need​ ​to accomplish​ ​each​ ​month​ ​to​ ​achieve​ ​it.​ ​Then​ ​you​ ​can​ ​develop​ ​daily habits​ ​that​ ​will​ ​move​ ​you​ ​towards​ ​that​ ​monthly​ ​goal​ ​every​ ​single​ ​day.
  • Don’t ​​try ​​to ​​get ​​rid ​​of ​​bad ​​habits.​​ Your ​​brain ​​will ​​think​​ you​​ are​​ losing something​ ​and​ ​will​ ​fight​ ​against​ ​you.​ ​Instead,​ ​replace​ ​those​ ​bad habits​ ​with​ ​good​ ​ones​ ​so​ ​that​ ​you​ ​feel​ ​like​ ​you​ ​are​ ​gaining​ ​instead​ ​of losing.
  • Identify ​​your ​​triggers ​​for ​​negative​​ actions​​ and​​ create​​ new​​ triggers​​ for positive​ ​actions.​ ​You​ ​can​ ​piggyback​ ​new​ ​habits​ ​on​ ​to​ ​old​ ​ones​ ​for easy​ ​triggers,​ ​creating​ ​complementary​ ​habits​ ​that​ ​trigger​ ​each​ ​other so​ ​that​ ​you​ ​have​ ​a​ ​better​ ​chance​ ​of​ ​completing​ ​them​ ​each​ ​day.
  • This​​ program ​​is ​​designed​​ to ​​guide ​​you​​ for ​​30 ​​days​​ (and ​​beyond​​ to ​​a certain​ ​extent),​ ​so​ ​that​ ​you​ ​can​ ​develop​ ​new​ ​habits.​ ​However,​ ​keep​ ​in mind​ ​that​ ​there​ ​is​ ​no​ ​scientific​ ​consensus​ ​on​ ​how​ ​long​ ​it​ ​takes​ ​to​ ​form a​ ​new​ ​habit​ ​and​ ​each​ ​person​ ​is​ ​different,​ ​as​ ​is​ ​each​ ​habit​ ​that​ ​people try​ ​to​ ​create.
  • Your ​​first ​​five ​​days ​​are ​​going ​​to ​​be​​ the ​​most ​​difficult. ​​Use​​ the​​ guide​​ in Chapter​ ​7​ ​to​ ​help​ ​you​ ​through​ ​that​ ​period​ ​and​ ​remember​ ​that​ ​it​ ​is​ ​only five​ ​days​ ​and​ ​afterward,​ ​you​ ​will​ ​be​ ​headed​ ​for​ ​the​ ​downhill​ ​slope.
  • Use ​​the ​​information ​​provided​​ in ​​Chapter​​ 8​​ to​​ help ​​you​​ through ​​the remaining​ ​25​ ​days​ ​of​ ​forming​ ​a​ ​new​ ​habit.​ ​There​ ​is​ ​expert​ ​advice, motivational​ ​quotes,​ ​and​ ​much​ ​more​ ​included​ ​with​ ​that​ ​material.
  • Use ​​the​​ checklist ​​in ​​Chapter ​​9​​ to​​ evaluate ​​your ​​efforts​​ and ​​determine where​ ​you​ ​should​ ​go​ ​from​ ​there.​ ​You​ ​can​ ​begin​ ​working​ ​on​ ​new habits​ ​right​ ​away​ ​if​ ​you​ ​have​ ​been​ ​able​ ​to​ ​make​ ​the​ ​first​ ​ones​ ​stick.
  • Read ​​through​​ the ​​barriers ​​to​​ success​​ that​​ most ​​people​​ have ​​to overcome​ ​and​ ​come​ ​up​ ​with​ ​strategies​ ​for​ ​combating​ ​each​ ​one​ ​in advance,​ ​so​ ​that​ ​when​ ​one​ ​does​ ​pop​ ​up,​ ​you​ ​will​ ​be​ ​able​ ​to​ ​slide​ ​over it​ ​easily​ ​and​ ​continue​ ​on​ ​the​ ​road​ ​to​ ​success.

Strategies​ ​to​ ​Take​ ​Away​ ​From​ ​This​ ​Book

So,​ ​what​ ​are​ ​the​ ​most​ ​important​ ​things​ ​that​ ​you​ ​should​ ​be​ ​taking​ ​away​ ​from this​ ​book​ ​that​ ​will​ ​stay​ ​with​ ​you​ ​the​ ​rest​ ​of​ ​your​ ​life​ ​and​ ​actually​ ​help​ ​you​ ​on the​ ​road​ ​to​ ​success?​

​Without​ ​using​ ​the​ ​obvious​ ​answer​ ​of​ ​”everything,” there​ ​are​ ​a​ ​few​ ​things​ ​that​ ​are​ ​really​ ​important​ ​to​ ​remember.

First,​ ​you​ ​don’t​ ​have​ ​to​ ​use​ ​everything​ ​in​ ​this​ ​book,​ ​and​ ​you​ ​don’t​ ​have​ ​to use​ ​it​ ​exactly​ ​the​ ​way​ ​it​ ​is​ ​described.​ ​

Everyone’s​ ​style​ ​is​ ​different,​ ​and everything​ ​listed​ ​here​ ​may​ ​not​ ​work​ ​for​ ​you​ ​exactly​ ​the​ ​way​ ​it​ ​might​ ​work for​ ​us.​ ​A​ ​good​ ​example​ ​of​ ​this​ ​is​ ​with​ ​the​ ​goal​ ​system.​ ​

Not​ ​everyone​ ​can make​ ​the​ ​YEAR-MONTH-DAY​ ​system​ ​work,​ ​and​ ​some​ ​prefer​ ​the conventional​ ​LONG-TERM/SHORT-TERM​ ​style​ ​of​ ​goal-setting​ ​and​ ​then work​ ​how​ ​to​ ​develop​ ​habits​ ​from​ ​those​ ​goals.

It​ ​is​ ​also​ ​important​ ​to​ ​remember​ ​that​ ​if​ ​you​ ​have​ ​never​ ​tried​ ​to​ ​develop these​ ​kinds​ ​of​ ​habits​ ​before,​ ​it​ ​is​ ​going​ ​to​ ​be​ ​a​ ​challenge,​ ​and​ ​there​ ​are going​ ​to​ ​times​ ​that​ ​you​ ​fail.​

​This​ ​is​ ​perfectly​ ​normal.​ ​Just​ ​remember,​ ​a failure​ ​only​ ​stays​ ​a​ ​failure​ ​if​ ​a​ ​person​ ​doesn’t​ ​learn​ ​something​ ​from​ ​it.

Finally,​ ​just​ ​remember​ ​that​ ​you​ ​have​ ​the​ ​ability​ ​to​ ​be​ ​successful.​ ​

You​ ​might think​ ​that​ ​you​ ​don’t​ ​have​ ​the​ ​educational​ ​background,​ ​the​ ​means,​ ​the determination,​ ​the​ ​opportunities,​ ​the​ ​friends,​ ​or​ ​a​ ​million​ ​other​ ​resources that​ ​other​ ​successful​ ​people​ ​seem​ ​to​ ​have.​ ​

But​ ​that​ ​doesn’t​ ​mean​ ​that​ ​you don’t​ ​have​ ​just​ ​as​ ​much​ ​of​ ​a​ ​chance​ ​of​ ​earning​ ​success​ ​as​ ​they​ ​did.

Just​ ​believe​ ​in​ ​yourself​ ​and​ ​start​ ​small.​ ​

Every​ ​single​ ​successful​ ​person​ ​in this​ ​world,​ ​every​ ​single​ ​entrepreneur,​ ​celebrity,​ ​corporate​ ​big shot,​ ​and self-made​ ​millionaire​ ​began​ ​with​ ​the​ ​same​ ​journey​ ​that​ ​you​ ​are​ ​about​ ​to take​ ​right​ ​now:​ ​setting​ ​their​ ​first​ ​goals​ ​and​ ​developing​ ​solid​ ​habits​ ​that​ ​they did​ ​every​ ​day​ ​to​ ​achieve​ ​them.

You​ ​can​ ​do​ ​the​ ​same.​ ​All​ ​you​ ​need​ ​to​ ​do​ ​to​ ​be​ ​on​ ​your​ ​way​ ​to​ ​completing the​ ​journey​ ​is​ ​to​ ​take​ ​the​ ​first​ ​step.

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